When I have said it to people with the intention of them growing, first of all it is meant for their own benefit, not for getting good grades or work recognition.
I find it is important for people to know what their unrealised potential is, and growing as a result of doing something hard, and making this a positive cycle.
But the experience has to provide the rewards in itself. Pursuing external validation or trying to align with someone else’s idea of a noble goal will only lead to frustration. As well as decreased confidence.
All that said, you can’t have that goal through all your life. Do that for a while, take a rest that could be a weekend, a month or even 10 years long if you’re going through raising kids. As long as it’s in your own terms and you’re not hurting anyone. Nobody likes assholes.
When I have said it to people with the intention of them growing, first of all it is meant for their own benefit, not for getting good grades or work recognition.
I find it is important for people to know what their unrealised potential is, and growing as a result of doing something hard, and making this a positive cycle.
But the experience has to provide the rewards in itself. Pursuing external validation or trying to align with someone else’s idea of a noble goal will only lead to frustration. As well as decreased confidence.
All that said, you can’t have that goal through all your life. Do that for a while, take a rest that could be a weekend, a month or even 10 years long if you’re going through raising kids. As long as it’s in your own terms and you’re not hurting anyone. Nobody likes assholes.