sparkles

No, not really.

I mean… I think there are variables that predict our life outcomes, at least the odds of them.

Things like where we are born, who are parents are, our environment all have roles in the experiences we will have throughout our entire lives.

Behavior is somewhat predictable once you study it as a science. So I guess it could seem rather scripted when you figure it like that.

A lot of good answers here. Being a good model, correcting behavior, treating siblings with equity.

You cannot control everything though. They will have lived experiences outside of the control of their parent, good and bad friends, teachers, etc. They may be born with different medical conditions. All this is impactful in shaping a person, and how flexible they are.

Okay, that’s fair. How about when people ask you for food recipes after comment reply that’s in context? Are bots that good?

It’s like being called an NPC isn’t it

Yes, all of that. Also my laugh is weird.

I enjoy watching it on YouTube. I’m afraid I’d laugh wrong in public so I’ve never been.

So for me when I was dating it was that people were never interested in me as a person, for a variety of reasons.

So for example a lot of people my age have children and look for a mother figure. Or think mothers themselves are not for serious companionship.

Or looking for what I provide as a service (free therapy).

Or it’s a money thing.

Eventually it went from annoying to exhausting. Well, it was not adding anything to my life so why bother?

Not capable at all would be non-verbal. This includes vocal and non-vocal verbal communication such as PECs and sign. Non-vocal is not speaking out loud. Able to speak but not doing so may be called selectively verbal.

Not trying at all could have several outcomes and reasons behavioral and medical and would not be any of these. They may not learn to read so lack literacy or may not learn properly how to speak and lack fluency in their first language.

Edit: upon reading some of your other comments, you may be thinking of delays in receptive and expressive language. Which can have many causes.

Yeah I’ve had both and can’t tell the difference. Guess it depends on where you get them.

I have reached the stage where I will wear crocs. Human services helps/my feet hurt/ they are universally accepted.

But I refuse to accept they are a premium piece of footwear. They have become so insanely overpriced for what they are (in general)I have found myself buying knockoff crocs…

Deceptive fruit. Banana knife.

If you engage even one out of ten times, you’re reinforcing it. You can redirect the conversation. Talk to another person, change the subject, completely disengage with them on that specific topic.

You can set expectations privately going in. Set the boundaries. Reiterate them gently but firmly in a general manner. Polite and businesslike when the forbidden topic comes up, cheerful and interested when any other topic comes up. Again, never directly engaging with the forbidden topic.

All this assumes you still want to get along with this person.

Unlikely. I have always found dating sites pretty uncomfortable.

Even in the best scenarios, there were never any people who shared my interests. Now I’m older/kinda exhausted of it. :3

If I was younger and still trying, I imagine I would want something that felt less like being in a display case, visually. Maybe also making people who didn’t share any of my values or interests unable to swipe.