I find the idea of self-hosting to be really appealing, but at the same time I find it to be incredibly scary. This is not because I lack the technical expertise, but because I have gotten the impression that everyone on the Internet would immediately try to hack into it to make it join their bot net. As a result, I would have to be constantly vigilant against this, yet one of the numerous assailants would only have to succeed once. Dealing with this constant threat seems like it would be frightening enough as a full-time job, but this would only be a hobby project for me.
How do the self-hosters on Lemmy avoid becoming one with the botnet?


If you don’t need stuff publicly accessible, and just need it accessible to you, then set up a small computer on the network as an ssh Bastion host/jump server, put it on a VPN connection with a VPN provider that offers dyndns, forward the ssh port through the dyndns, and then off network, reverse proxy in with socks5 via key based ssh -D to gain access to all the services available inside the LAN.
Been doing this for a few years, works great and no one is getting in without my ssh key.
Or with a zero day.
Chance is close to zero but never absolute 0 ;)
True enough.