Personally I’m somewhere between 2 and 3 - I’ll engage in the distro sectarianism for the bit, sometimes on the side of one that isn’t even what I actually use, but I hate being an annoying proselytiser of anything, I hate dealing with the broad tent politics of the FOSS world, and I’m happy to engage with the community positively but I hate being any of the nasty stereotypes.
Proud member of #3 gang here, although I don’t really give a shit about distro wars. But if you’re talking about a problem with Windows you can be pretty sure I’ll say you could avoid that with Linux.
Being labeled “annoying” often means you’re completely correct and the person you’re talking to knows it but has some cognitive dissonance to work through. You see it with linux, socialism, veganism, etc. People don’t get nearly as annoyed by opinions they sincerely disagree with as by opinions they can’t find a good reason to disagree with (but want to anyway)