I don’t mean banter or just shooting the shit. but discussions or talking with friends about things in your life, or theirs… ya know, showing an interest in someone’s life because they matter to you or them having an interest in your life because you matter to them?
Two days ago via discord. I don’t live anywhere near the few friends we have, so Mondays and Wednesdays are two days per week where we have the evenings schedules cleared of anything related to spouses, work, offspring, and general adulting.
Those hours are usually spent gaming together, or just general chitchat. These days it’s usually Project Zomboid, and the dedicated server I’ve set up only runs on those days with a fixed set of hours (thanks, cron!), To ensure that we play together rather than someone soloing during the off-hours. Though getting PZ to play nicely with systemd was a PITA.
And if someone were to miss the times lot, then they only missed a few hours total - Yhings will mostly remain as they were last time they played.
off topic, your group should checkout vein as well if zomboid is fun to you. 3d style version of it, quite fun and made by 2 individuals. I think they are just at a point where they can start hiring actual staff to work with them so only better things should be coming.