Context for the q: was browsing tiktok and saw a video while scrolling. it was about a 35 year old woman with a 25 year old boyfriend. Everyone in the comments said it’s wrong and predatory, how 25 is basically a kid and 35 is middle aged, etc

    • FuglyDuck@lemmy.world
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      13 hours ago

      Context matters.

      25, they’re either still in college or just getting into building their career.

      35, there established and stable

      Could it be predatory? Absolutely. Particularly if the 35yo is the one paying bills and the 25yo is financially dependent.

      That said, no one who is in a coma for 10 years is going to be waking up the same as they were when they went into the coma. They’re going to be different persons, and they’re going to be having ridiculous amounts of medical bills. Suffice it to say that the coma-person might be the victim here, too.

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        11 hours ago

        But that imbalance has nothing to do with age a 25 years old person could have a lot more money than a 35 years old person and make the older person dependend on the younger person

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          9 hours ago

          except- as I’ve already noted- that a 35 yo person is more likely to have an established career and financial stability in a way I wouldn’t expect a 25 year old.

          again, context matters, but whether you want to admit it or not, the age gap is straddling major life milestones.