i only feel sexual attraction towards my partners, and they have to be sexual first. if they’re not sexual people, i only feel romance to them and no sexual feelings. i frankly don’t wanna bang anyone and have never felt like actually doing so until i met my partner, and even then, it’s more out of curiosity and romantic sparks than anything else (i’m super romantic so i’m not aromantic).
i only feel sexual feelings under certain circumstances, and even then, i use it to make myself happy and not really wanting to have sex with someone.
i am sure i feel sexual attraction, like probably towards my partner, but i’d say less so than most people do, perhaps???
i’m demisexual for now which is on the ace spectrum.
I felt the same as op till one person changed it slightly but I still don’t have that pull. It’s more for curiosity or pleasing with anyone else. They are more fwb than bf and that works with being nd. They treat you like a bf without the label or ties. Sex still gives me panic attacks but the fwb arrangement helps a bit