• CableMonster@lemmy.ml
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    4 months ago

    Flip phone or non internet phone. We have a phone for the kids, but its not one that can get them to the internet or sending pictures.

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      4 months ago

      unfortunately they will almost certainly get picked on. i dont think abstinence is the best idea here, better to educate them on the dangers and monitor/restrict what they are using the phone for. lest they hate you. but certainly for someone under 12-14 they do not need a phone.

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        4 months ago

        I hear what you are saying, but I dont want my kids to fit in with those kids, and thus we have them in private schools now. One main issue is even if you teach them not to just start watching porn, they turn into one of those kids that is on their phone all the time and then transitions into an adult like that too.

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          4 months ago

          you realize most kids will still find a way, even if you tell them not to ? its better to actually educate them. which is the point of parenting; not just to restrict what they are allowed to do.

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              4 months ago

              no. teach them about the dangers of porn and other dangers online. ban porn from their devices. if you make porn out to be this unspeakable horror, it only leads to a natural curiosity which can lead to an unhealthy relationship with it or even sex in general. please note that i am not advocating for actively allowing minors access porn, nor do i encourage anyone to access it themselves. a phone can be a tool, and tools come with inherent dangers. teach your kids like you would with driving a car or not eating junk food.

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                4 months ago

                Sure, teach them the dangers but also make it as hard as possible for them to access it.

                I think another big issue outside of porn is that when kids grow up with phones they turn into people that are always looking at phones. I have some inlaws kids that have phones, and they are just inherently not interesting and dont engage. I agree that phones are a good tool, but when people are constantly having it in their hand it gives them addiction and makes them not interesting.