Because I don’t, and pretending to feels dishonest. I’ll listen if they want to talk about it, but I’m not going to act interested, and I certainly won’t ask about it on my own. What I’m trying to figure out is whether people actually care, or if they’re just playing a social game that I’m simply not interested in.

I’m probably on the autistic spectrum, which likely explains this to some extent. But that’s not an excuse - being an asshole is perfectly compatible with autism, so before dunking on me, please realise I probably agree with your criticism.

  • TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee
    7·
    27 days ago

    For a real friend? Absolutely! I’ll hunt them down. For a coworker or loose acquaintance? I care a little less, but it’s still nice to see occasional baby photos and vacation pics.

    I can’t believe people would fake politeness about this! No wonder we’re all so damn lonely. If you really don’t care, why not just say that those things bore you? It would probably make for deeper connections with everyone involved. You wouldn’t have to waste your time with them, and they wouldn’t waste their time with you!

    • Dragon Rider (drag)@lemmy.nzEnglish
      42·
      27 days ago

      Drag was socially conditioned to pretend to be interested through years of relatives sharing holiday pictures when drag was small.