"alleged fare-beater had charged at the officers with a knife and made verbal threats against their lives; "

The fare jumper sociopath escalated to violence and threats with a deadly weapon. That’s the person responsible here.

I’m sure you would use your Jedi mind tricks in this circumstance.

Read up on how knife attacks go down in close quarters. Theres a reason British police frequently wear knife vests.

Boy, I’m real hesitant to go to HR. May as well ask to be fired.

It really depends on the business, culture, climate. The better places I’ve worked, this kind of interest is genuine, an attempt to foster better relationships at work. Of course, some people are just nosey Nellies…

Without knowing the environment and culture (and the questions), it’s hard to say what to do.

Best I can say is to make it clear you like to keep your work and private life well separated.

Also OP, if someone else feels insulted, that’s on them. They’ve chosen to feel insulted. Besides, how do you know she feels insulted? If she’s communicating that, then she’s being manipulative, using “emotional blackmail”. Look, I’m not responsible for how you choose to feel, that’s on you.

One trick I’ve used with people who continue with questions is to respond with a non-sequiter, something jarring, and use it all the time, repeatedly. Something like “how about the weather”, or “how about those <insert local sports team>”. Make it your catch phrase for when people continue to pry, and don’t be afraid to repeat it. Keep in mind tone matters, so say it like you mean it, like you walked in on Monday after a team did well, or got their asses beat. You don’t even have to like the sport or the team, in fact it’s kind of funny if you don’t like them.

It’s a bit of re-framing the conversation, while also communicating you aren’t interested in the subject, without being an ass. And if anyone complains, well, you were just talking about a sports team.

They said that they try to reserve their spots for people who specifically fall short of other places.

Sounds like bias.

Good point about platform agnostic remote for management stuff. VNC is ideal for this.

And systems like Proxmox use a web GUI for most stuff, it’s a touch slow but I think that’s mostly just waiting for the system to finish the actual changes I make, and not the UI.

It uses some form of VNC (forget the name). Performance is fine for the VMs for non-video stuff.

You can run whatever you want inside a VM too.

You, I like you.

Works for me, but damn it’s dog snot slow. Like typing takes 1-2 seconds for each character to show up

How do you know how much it’s filled?

Also, hot water heat works differently than steam, and many steam systems have been converted to hot water, so it’s not easy to know just by looking at a radiator.

As other people have said, let the maintenance folks handle it. They know the system.

And?

There was a post recently about “.LAN” recently being added to the DNS spec

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Except it’s not zero effort, zero cost.

But do we have evidence they’re effective?

It still takes effort/time/money to do this, and if it has no impact, then that effort/time/money could be used on things that are known to be effective.

I have no idea how much effect they have. It’s possible they have a negative effect.

Op’s question is do we have that information?

I have never once been told I wasn’t hired, let alone told why.

I’ve been to probably a thousand interviews.

No one has time for that.

Imagine as a manager, you interview 100 people. Now you expect them to write a rejection letter, pass it through HR and the lawyers, for 99 people?

Imagine the time that would take, and what does the company get for that time? Nothing but risk.

“The wealth holding members of society”

Hahaha, every hiring manager I’ve worked for (you know, someone looking to fill a spot on our team) wasn’t exactly what I’d call “a wealth holder”.

They’re middle-to-senior management, making anywhere from 100k to 300k, at most. Sometimes quite a bit less.

We’re talking people who are a good 3 levels away from the C class. Meaning they’d be competing with everyone at their level, and above, to get to those higher seats in the pyramid.

Hiring managers are rarely farther up the food chain, unless they’re hiring for those seats farther up the food chain - which isn’t any of us here.

It’s It like there’s a team of managers who just do hiring/interviews. HR handles the initial stages, and the actual “hiring manager” is the person who’s looking to add someone to their team, someone they’ll be managing.

The same way you get over not knowing just about anything else.

Let it go.

Does it serve you in any way to continue to be bothered by not knowing?

You are irrelevant to them. Just like I’m irrelevant to you. That’s life.

Why would you run local traffic over the VPN?

I’ve worked for and with people who made a lot more than me.

So what? They achieved that by doing something I didn’t. They may have also made sacrifices I didn’t. Doctors certainly busted their ass a LOT more than me - I could never do what they do in educational terms alone (not to mention the biological stuff).

Did you really get to being a nurse without knowing typical salaries for different types of nursing or different kinds of doctors?

Now to answer the real question: how to not be bothered by this. Start by changing the idea in your head that your work has the same value as the work of someone else, let alone someone who spent years more time studying than you did, and also took on a lot more debt to do so, and a lot more risk.

Go read “Your Erroneous Zones” by Wayne Dyer. It’s an intro to the methods of CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) - these thoughts of yours are “scripts” that aren’t useful for you. He teaches how to change thinking such as this.

I decided there simply were not enough docker apps for downloading Youtube videos, and so I made the situation worse :p

You get my upvote for this alone!

The other cost to home lab serving lots of data is internet limits.

My internet will throttle after X terabytes (I forget the limit), whether upstream or down, and of course upload is slower.

It’s like playing a game of tetris with costs, performance, stability, reliability, flexibility, privacy, security, and personal effort.

I’m not saying don’t have a home lab, just that there are things to consider. It’s worth the effort for me, though I’m working to move some things to cloud storage (e.g. Hetzner/Storj.io) and a VPS to get some of the bandwidth off my connection, and remove my home internet as a bottleneck or failure point.