I’m a 41 year old dad with a 1 y/o and a 3 y/o, with a partner who has a busy schedule. My advice is (surprise!) the same as everyone else’s, trying to work a 60 hours work week and do that other stuff isn’t sustainable. Maybe if you had a stay-at-home partner who took care of childcare and household chores, I could see you making it work (but then you wouldn’t really be involved in your family’s life at all which I would consider a deal breaker).
I’m tired all the time, but it’s at least possible. If I was working 60 hours a week? No way.
And while I have no interest in an affair or divorce, I probably should drink less wine in the evenings while making dinner and doing chores :-/
EDIT: I just saw your other comments, you work 40 hours a week, and are in 15-20 hour training per week, until January. Can you get anyone to help watch your kids for another 1.5 months? Family? Babysitter?
While I like the joke, I think it might be obsolete at this point. AI is (unfortunately) here to stay, and giving it a big batch of code and saying “summarize what this does for me” or even “rename the variables for clarity and add comments” works pretty well. As with all things AI, never just trust what it gives you in return, but it can make dealing with this kind of situation 1000x easier.