Keep at arms length. Her unhappiness isn’t your problem and you can’t fix it anyway. Someone who rants about how other people greet them will never be happy. They will always be unhappy if something doesn’t go exactly like they want. Not worth wasting energy trying to please them. Everyone will know how she is from her rants.
They weren’t. Its just like today where they were steeped in propaganda. Thats no excuse. We should have crushed them after the war. Since we didn’t we have had to repeatedly deal with the traitors.
Even now we should be crushing Texas instead of playing their games. We are responsible for enabling their abhorrent behavior.