It’s only fun if it’s appreciated by the other party, though.

Cute. Thanks for sharing.

Hey now, I am not AI. I am a real human.

But your SO did like you in all that time?

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Quick follow up question: What is your idea of flirting?

My question isn’t so much about whether it’s good or not. It’s about whether it’s generally necessary.

Perhaps we have different ideas on what flirting is

I think we do. I see flirting as banter to make sexual/romantic intentions known.

but to me, its the things you do to build a connection (talking, joking, hanging out, etc).

How is that different from making friends though? I mean that’s exactly what I do with friends and basically anyone.

I don’t think it’s wise to treat people you’re romantically interested the exact same you would any other person. That’s how I got into this mess, to be honest. I actually feel like if I were more upfront about it I now wouldn’t have made this post here.

stop treating women differently from men

True and I never have otherwise. But you should absolutely treat people you like differently, at least in the way of what you want with them.

Where am I supposed to get a hamster wheel??

Also, I feel like at that last stage we may as well just remain friends.

“that’s all fine but I genuinely begin to develop feelings for her” and “I just don’t really care all that much for a friendship”.

Okay I may have not worded it very well there. What I mean is that I don’t want to be in this “friendzone” any more. I really don’t and I don’t see myself being happy remaining as such.

It’s nothing about her not being good enough. It’s my own feelings that are in the way.

I never said I didn’t like her. It’s quite the opposite.

The problem is that I want more than friendship. It just leaves too much to be desired.

Well, shit.

Safe from what?

Safe from making someone uncomfortable?

And who says it’s important?

According to folks over at my previous posts. (Though they also emphasised communication)

I think, I’m somewhere in the middle of all that. I’m fine with flirting, I’m more or less indifferent about it (I like it if she responds well to it). But if it wasn’t as important as people say it is, I don’t think I would do it, just to be safe.

But I’m not in a relationship?

Thank you! That was very thorough and clear.

Of course you still need to find a way to show interest

Do you have any tips on how to do that?