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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • Any attempt at self-improvement is not pathetic. My phone suggested self-forgiveness, which also is key here.

    You are trying to be more aware and less impulsive. The key here is mindfulness, not that it’s easy to attain/achieve.

    I said self-forgiveness because beating yourself up for your perceived failures will also hold you back.

    Failure is key to success.

    I’ve made a little progress toward changing my internal monolog, and it has served me well. Be nicer to yourself and laugh off your failures lest the memory of them become baggage.

    My dad is a Buddhist. I never got good at meditation, but I recognize its value.

    But mainly, be kinder to yourself. Perfection was never an option, so why would you expect it from yourself?

    Relax. Breathe. You’ll figure things out, whether or not you achieve these goals.





  • What works for you, works for you.

    It may be possible to slowly wean yourself off of these behaviors that are worrying you. If it’s down to once a month, there isn’t as much of a jump to zero times a month, but maybe sometime. And then once it’s been a year, congratulate yourself for that and keep going.

    Habits are hard to break and much easier to fall into. But if you are more conscious of these decisions, it all becomes a little bit easier with time.

    That kind of mindfulness is a skill that is hard to develop, but your post leads me to think you’re already on your way.





  • Hour by hour, my job evolved from taking calls from clients who owed us money, to then answering questions from agents who weren’t as skilled at it as I was.

    In the process of being promoted, I was asked to join a daily meeting of over 100 people talking about the issues affecting our department.

    Once in a great while, something came up in that meeting that gave me the heads up to prevent chaos in our department and stress to members.

    There’s a whole shitload of cogs turning in modern corporations. There’s also a huge danger of people leaving and nobody understanding why the cogs are there.







  • The gish gallop has gone mainstream.

    What we needed, twenty to forty years ago at the bare minimum, were journalists who were willing to shut that shit down.

    I remember being a child watching the news with my parents and seeing an oil company defender accusing the scientists of chasing profits.

    Like what the fuck? How did that not end immediately with “And who is currently profiting?” is and always has been beyond me.

    …I’m not sure that’s a great example of the gish gallop. Technically.

    My point was that we now report the untrue claims rather than saying, from the start, “This candidate said something completely false and not worth repeating.”

    For clicks, views, the algorithm, for profit. Nope. It was all to game the system in order to destroy it.

    Sorry, this probably isn’t coherent but I’m tired and tipsy, and I’ve chosen to hit save.