Lmao Tone is hard to read, I wasn’t upset so if I came across that way my apologies, I was just adding more info in response to points you had raised.

I would assume if they meant it as some kind of a dig, they wouldn’t accept the invitations to hammock with us. Their tone was friendly, it’s just not a term I’ve heard and given the different comments so far, it seems to be a mixed bag as to whether other people would consider it an insult or a compliment.

Really though given the context, I’m going to take it as a compliment even if it was meant as an insult.

I have no job currently, my clothes are mostly 5+ years old with most of my stuff being around 10 years old from my last retail job when I got them discounted and on clearance, my car rolled off the line before I was conceived and has the damage that says it lives in deer country, and my food comes from wherever is cheapest.

And they all know these things since we talk about such things at meets along with basically every other topic. pretty much everyone is in the same boat, and with only one exception we all live with roommates and parents.

If you’re thinking of a 2010 hipster with a man-bun and Abercrombie clothes driving their Leaf from the iPhone store to the fancy food market where everything is 5x the price because someone put the word “organic” in front of “tomato”… I mean, imagine me however you wish, but we are definitely more the type to live in a log cabin we built ourselves away from any kind of technology. I like what gadgets I do have, but I’d trade them for “not living in capitalism hell” any day.

Lmao “upper”

I have no job currently and can’t afford more than basics for food, but thanks for making assumptions.

A bit more of a relatable explanation than UD gave me, and honestly I doubt it was meant negatively as most of the people in this group are very left leaning and while a few aren’t quite “paint a brick rainbow and smash a cop’s window” levels yet, they’re certainly closer than anyone else in my life. We have discussed camping so several at least enjoy outdoorsy stuff.

I like my gadgets if I could live in the woods with 15 other people and grow out own food and not have to worry about dying of gangrene I’d give all my things up in a heartbeat.

By this metric, I’ll be “crunchy” over “silky” any day of the week.

Oh man, urban dictionary is still going? I haven’t seen them in forever…

If that’s how they meant it… I mean, it’s pretty spot on.

I’ll take it as a compliment, then!

I personally believe it is on purpose, to try and get you to download the app.

Then they can get way more of your data to sell.

My wife started out with tons of republican views, she just didn’t vote ever.

Through conversations about the state of things, pointing* out hypocrisy, and validating the feelings her religious family was telling her to suppress, I’m happy to say I’ve managed to marry a leftist. She didn’t even really have the liberal pit-stop many of us take.

I’ll take 100,000 leftists married/dating/whatever to 100,000 liberals over 200,000 conservatives any day of the week.

It’s curtains for me.

I guess I’d better frame my next comment differently!

I meant widow, sorry for not being clear.

Most people I know didn’t even know Kirk was married until his assassination planner window* started making the news screeching about how much of a saint he was.

*widow

Useless knowledge: a black hole can technically exist inside a super-massive star.

The gravity of the black hole pulls in hydrogen, the force of the hydrogen fusion and Hawking radiation pressure from the black hole try to push the hydrogen/star stuff out.

For awhile at least, with enough supply of hydrogen (that likely doesn’t exist in a large concentrated enough supply), it can hold itself in balance as the biggest star you’ve never seen.

Note: take this with a grain of salt, this is my understanding of a kurzgesagt video I watched while high.

It’s an accurate snapshot of the American executive branch right now

Don’t sell us short, it’s also an accurate snapshot of the legislative and judicial branches, as well as about 30% of the general population!

Because it’s a lot easier to discredit a religious argument when the sermon cites “4th Thessalossians 67:B” and gives the most generic sounding paragraph with the one weirdly specific phrase they instructed the bot to include and em—dash thrown in for good measure.

At least if they all use the same manual, it’s easier to pull over the ones who are on the fence.

I don’t have a perfect memory but I do have a good one, and I can confirm that the pastor at my parents church when I was growing up re-used sermons from multiple years prior.

So at least some recycle. As expected, they are still just as (ir)relevant.

That would make me less irritated at work.

Small company owners are too cheap to order replacement wheels, but some chucklefuck speared a tire on my lift with their fork and took a chunk out. So now I get a ka-thunk and spine-jarring jolt every rotation, and I have to be extra careful when my forks are up or I’m turning. “It still works” so no getting a replacement any time soon.

I mean, I’m sure they’d be too cheap to order spare segments, so it wouldn’t matter either way, but I can dream…

Take it from me, you don’t want to go down the “eugenics” road…

🤮 What a fucking terrible day for eyes.

Still every day I hear “it’s not all black and white we can’t act rashly” shut the fuck up cletus you’re just a brain-dead tongue happily licking the shit off MAGAs boot.

But it also does the dishes without using as much water as you do.

The sad truth is a lot of religious people believe that the end times won’t come unless the earth isn’t livable anymore.

A even LARGER group of religious simply think their sky person will give them a new earth that’s perfect so why bother protecting this one.

They and their supporters are complicit in the murder of the planet at best, and are trashing everything on purpose, trying to claw back any and every support of things that can make it a better place.

I my experience, the oldest child is forced to mature faster by being required to perform childcare duties, especially in families with many children.

Younger siblings basically “get to be a kid” longer than older ones.

This is unfair to both older and younger siblings for a myriad of reasons, but both are a failure of parenting, and society as a whole. The parents should not be forcing the dynamic, and society should not be putting parents in a position where they feel they have to.

As for “feeling immature” as an adult… That is entirely dependent on what you measure maturity by. My wife and I sing nonsense tunes at each other, sometimes just look up and go “QUACK!” for no reason. We have gone to a playground to go swinging. We have gone outside to play in the snow.

I didn’t get my first job without my mother’s help until 20. I didn’t get my license until 26. I didn’t get my first full time job until 33. I absolutely hate going to a store at all, let alone by myself. Although if I’m being honest I would rather go by myself since it’s faster and less chance of my wife grabbing 10 extra things because we passed the aisle and she went something snack-y.

Remember, “Autism Spectrum Disorder” is, as the name implies, a spectrum. As such everyone is on it. Most people are gathered in a general area area (the people who would be considered “normal” by someone who has a more traditional old way of thinking) I personally believe I’m a little further toward the “autism” side, based on a bunch of comparing my personal experience with others who are diagnosed. I don’t believe it’s that big a deal for me, as I am fully capable of functioning on my own as an adult.

A bit of armchair psychology, I’d wager you’re a bit like my wife and due to narcissistic and withholding parents you likely need more reassurance than the average person. This isn’t a failure on your part at all, and it’s not a “developmental disability” it’s just a bit of childhood trauma.

To answer more directly:

In my opinion, yes eldest siblings often mature faster. Feeling immature is probably normal, and maturity is a pretty vague notion in general. ASD in general isn’t as big a deal as many people think. If you’ll forgive me for saying so, your family kind of sucks.