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Autistic and ADHD, Im a huge nerd who loves researching whatever interests me that day. My lifetime passions range from AI(actual AI, not LLMs. I was working on AI a decade before LLMs hit he market), programming, inventing, educating, futurism, tech, space, and for the last couple years bioengineering. I use lemmy as my only “social media”, and even then i mostly use it for news or memes. I hate society as is it ableist, hippocritical, uncaring to those whose value cant be extracted, and most humans are pretty cringe. As such i have no desire for “social media”, it suffers from the exact same issues reality TV suffers from.

I do have a biological desire to socialize however, so i prefer to have a small group i am intensely devoted towards, whether that be friends, family, or a lover. If youre looking for a personal connection i would like for you to reach out, but if youre a guy then be forewarned: i will not respond to misogyny, i cant comfort you,

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  • Wow, that was a lot of assumption in a small package.

    Then your learning is teaching you bullshit

    I cant directly refute that admittedly because thats something thats more confirmed or denied through direct experiance. That being said, my direct experiance through my entire life would seem to refute your point.

    designed to isolate you and push you further into toxic masculinity

    Thats much easier to refute.Unless you are stating someone designed my life(which there is an argument to be made, thats why i hate capitalism) then no one designed my education. School had 2 classes in my entire education that actually taught me new information, other than that I am entirely self taught. The differance is that I seek out all information at all times, even information that conflicts with my beliefs. Devils advocates are important because they point out falicies, but I will admit i dont appreciate people genuinely holding atrocious views.

    It’s true that no-one likes a misogynistic, self-entitled prick though.

    True

    If you were actually suggesting that you’re upset that that shit is largely seen for the pathetic attempt to hide one’s inadequacies and insecurities that it is, you won’t find as much sympathy for that as you hoped.

    Well, im not entirely sure what “that” is but its safe to assume “that”'s not the case. Im… not really going to waste much time really paraing out what you mean here since its clear there has been a misunderstanding.

    The few friends that I do have are effectively siblings. They quite literally have the keys to my house and free reign to everything I own. I would open up to them about anything, and they are the exact same way with me. I am completely open to sharing things with strangers, and I am open to having strnagers open up to me. Im not super great at comforting people unfotunately, but I am a great listener and from what I can tell a rare few enjoy that.

    The issue is that that has lost me an incredible amount of potential friends. Ive had friends for years, and when they have a bad moment I ask if they want to talk about it. Men think thats gay and distnace themselves from you, women think youre flirting and want to get in their pants. Everyone oreaches caring about others, but everytime I ask how people are doing they just say “im good” no matter what. When I give any indication that I actually care, they think im flirting. Thats why I dont flirt, its fucking annoying how basic empathy is seen as disgusting.

    I try to come up with solutions and it seems the general response i get both online and in person is that women are just over men. Its not their problem anymore, and quite frankly thats fair. Men dont want to bond with other men, and theres this little thing called consent that prevents me from forcing my beliefs on community onto others. So… no community. No one wants my input, no one wants my problems, no one wants me around. Im not really interested in sympathy for that, this isnt me throwing a pity party. Its… fine. Its not great, its not terrible. I just need to look out for myself, do what I can, help those I can, and accept when my help simply isnt wanted. Im never going to force my beliefs on anyone, but if you attempt to take my rights or force me into servitude I will certainly defend myself. If someone wants me in their life they can make that known, but let me tell you, it would be a losing bet. The only reason this post exists isnt because of manosphere bullshit. If you think they care about you, you missed the entire point of this post. This post exists because its the hard truth. It doesnt make it easier, but it does save you a lot of misguided effort.

    Edit:lmfao, guy opens up about his problems. Everyone ignores, downvotes, preaches caring, and moves on. I swear, fucking clowns, every last one of you.











  • I have a sneaking suspicion im not alone in wanting this. It seems my post was largely poorly worded. Im primarily advocating for something i believe will help others, because ive talked to other people(both men and women) and they seem to have some desire for something like this. I think the issue comes in because i spend my time thinking about how to solve other peoples problems but I view them through the lens of my rationale, why I would do those things or make those decisions, which leads to people assuming im advocating for this for my benefit.

    When I see men catcalling women and getting scorned, I can see that it has an effect on both parties. The women are disgusted and sometimes scared, and the men are hurt, lonely, and oblivious. The only way I can think that I would get to the point of trying those thing is if previous attempts had failed. If all my romantic ventures up until then had not worked out, so I need to try something new. That is a willingess to change, but without direction they dont know WHAT to change. This can very easily lead to them becoming worse, creating a feedback loop that leads to nothing but shitty men in our society. So by giving them that guidance on what to change, they would have a better chance of integrating themselves into society. Even better if that information isnt coming from some alpha male on youtube or some thread on the internet written by men, it needs to be a woman telling them how to change and they might actually take it to heart.


  • Thats exactly what im getting at. These arent hookup classes, theyre socialization classes. I can handle being around women in a professional environment fine, it just feels like im missing something when it comes to being personal. Also, these classes arent for me, nor for autistic people. I suspect i view things differently because i am autistic, but these classes are designed for neurotypicals. But the classes are for both men and women to get experiance communicating their wants, desires, boundaries, and body language. I hear women all the time complaining they dont have a safe space to voice their concerns.

    I generally think and talk as though i am an outside observer for humanity, other than that is this really that tism coded?




  • The acceleration over time(g force) is determined by the balance between the size and shape of the wing compared to the momentum of the flies body, as long as that proportion is extremely small it would fall below the material strength of the wings connective tissue. Seeing as their wings are extremely small and their momentum is extremely small, the only real variable here is the shape of their wings(technically im referring to its aerodynamic drag versus lift both with respect to the vector of motion, but were just gonna say shape{also when i say “wing” im referring to the area exposed to oncoming atmosphere, which would include the body}). As long as the shape isnt too big in comparison to the momentum, it should be fine.

    Tl;dr/eli5: if it tucks its wings it will survive. At that speed if it untucks its wings they get ripped off and the fly becomes a walk.