I’m a man, and I was assaulted when I was younger, and you are exactly why men don’t come out about it. We look like whiny snivelling little children who try to pretend this is the fault of women while we live in a goddamn patriarchal society and have men at every step preventing the very care we need. A woman ran the support group I went to, a woman ran the shelter I had to stay in, a woman held my hand in the fucking hospital, and at every step men insulted me and laughed at me and asked if I was a fag, because they thought the woman was good looking. This absolute bullshit where you blame women like it’s their fault they’re attacked by men, like it’s their fault for talking about it, the entire ‘mens lib’ movement is garbage and forces those of us who’ve been through assault to be represented by the worst our sex has to offer.
The best thing you could do to help men like me is to shut your goddamn mouth and at the very least leave us to the care of women, because they actually do seem to give a shit and at no time ever blamed ‘all men’ for what I went through.
Fuck your reductive bullshit, fuck ever being tricked by the wealthy into attacking women on their behalf, and I still hope you never go through what I did.
You SERIOUSLY don’t hear other people, do you? You don’t see what’s said to you, what’s right in front of you? All you think about is what you want and how you can change what they say to meet it.
The mens lib movement, and the ridiculous attacks on women you voice don’t help people like me, who were attacked, because you change the focus, from help for everyone, to pitting men against women. No woman’s group ever blocked me access to care. Women don’t vote conservative at the rate men do, and conservative’s stop these groups from being made. The help I got was entirely from women volunteering their time and help. The people who tried to limit it, or change access, were men. The Conservative governments that remove funding for these programs are run by men, and voted for by men, and protected by men. The CEO’s who sabotage funding for public resources so they can get more tax breaks are patriarchal. Are women there? Sure. Is it run by them? No.
Our entire political, economic, and social system set up to benefit ‘masculine’ efforts. Being raped by a woman is seen by this system as ‘effeminate.’
The men who did eventually help me are hardcore left-wing socialists who understood, and spoke with me about how harmful the patriarchal system we all live under was to me, and others like me. We also spoke about the sheer damage the garbage people like you and your ‘mens lib’ movement has hurt us. Women didn’t even have the right as human beings until recently. In our own societies we deny them bodily autonomy and the right to vote and the right to be people under the law. And then people like you come out and say it’s all womens fault, and every time a woman speaks out about institutionally allowed sexual assault you scream from the rafters that men are hurt to, but NEVER when I asked for fucking help! NEVER when I was suffering! Only when women speak out, or someone talks about the FACT women are more likely to be assaulted, are assaulted more often, and the systems in place that allow it to happen, then you cowards come out and PRETEND TO PROTECT ME?!
FUCK. THAT.
You don’t represent me, and people like you make me ashamed to be a man.