That was me two years ago (and some change) when I was still married. My ex wife was the one to pull the trigger, and it was the best thing she could have done for the both of us (and our kids).

I was mad at her for a while. It was also terrifying having to move out and start over by myself, with no friends, and being a single father every other week. But I am sitting here in my house, hanging out after coming home from the gym, and simply enjoying the quiet time I have.

Yeah, I do miss having a relationship. It would be nice if I had friends too (I lost those in the divorce). But, it’s also nice to not have anybody but myself to answer to sometimes. And if I don’t do the dishes or take out the trash, there’s nobody there to give me attitude about it; it still gets done, but on my schedule and my terms.

All of that to say that if you’re genuinely not happy, and you feel there is nothing left to fight for, maybe leaving is not the worst thing you can do; it’s scary as fuck, but not that bad in the long run. Save your money, make your plans, and be open and honest with your partner when the time comes.

Don’t feed the trolls. It’s not worth it. 😊

I’m going to go out on a limb here and suggest maybe it’s not your view of life that’s getting downvoted, but how tone deaf you come off about how other people don’t necessarily hold your views.

Despite having hobbies, interests, getting out and doing positive things, I myself (for example) still feel defeated. And how I feel is just as valid as how you feel. That doesn’t necessarily make me emo, sappy, melancholy, cynical, nor pessimistic. Yes I can be all or some of those things, but then again, so can you.

So think on that before you start putting other people down for things you don’t necessarily understand.

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The thread comments will further prove my point more than likely.

Now who’s being pessimistic and cynical?

I wanted to take a moment to offer a different perspective. It sounds like your friend is disassociating. That doesn’t make him a bad dad. It just means he might be dealing with things that he is trying to protect himself from on an emotional level. I won’t try to conjecture what they are, because I don’t know him nor do I know his situation. And if you’re willing to take my advice, I’d suggest giving him the benefit of the doubt and just being there for him; whatever that may look like. You might even try to ask him about it (but be willing to accept that if there is something going on, he may not be ready or willing to talk about it).

Good luck to your friend.

Here’s how I approach old and slow:

1. Older software is mature and battle tested. It’s been around long enough that the developers should know what they’re doing, and have built a strong community for help and support.
2. Slow is okay when it comes to accuracy. Would I love to back up my gigabytes (peanuts compared to some of you folks out there with data centers in your attics) in seconds? Yes. But more importantly, I’d rather have my data be valid for if I ever need to do any kind of restore. And I’ve been around the block enough times in my career to see many useless backups.

If that’s not divisive in today’s political climate, I don’t know what is.

_/s

In addition to a sleep study, talk to your doctor about POTS.

But only for certain classes of people.

But everybody just wants to sit around and be sad about it instead of actually trying to make a difference.

This makes me a little indignant to read because it shows me that you understand absolutely nothing about declining mental health and how much of an impact it can have on people, their well-being, and their ability to do … things.

If fewer people had your mentality, maybe the sad, depressed, and chronically stressed out people suffering from very real trauma could get the help they so desperately deserve.

Life pro tip: when someone says they are tired, they don’t mean they’re sleepy or lazy. It means they are beaten down so hard that their only sane course of action is to simply stay down, lest they get beaten more.

It really depends on your bank or credit card issuer. Some places will accrue interest from the day of purchase until the day of repayment. It might be pennies for me and you, but I’m sure they make bank on their collective customer base. And deliberately making it difficult to pay off debt that causes additional charges should be illegal.

It’s quite possible these men have reached the Nirvana of being thick-skinned. If so, we all should be in awe, as that is a rare thing to achieve. It also could be that men are not allowed to show emotion, and would otherwise be condemned if they complained or didn’t “take it like a man”; especially being around a lot of women where they feel even more pressured to show up and be a man.

Codeberg is not just for static websites. It’s for FOSS projects. Their FAQ addresses this.

That’s a really good question.

My first two trains of thought would be 1) door open, or 2) no going to your room to be alone with the person you’re attracted to. But at the same time, I remember that it’s going to happen, regardless of what I do or say, and my first concern is that they are safe.

So really, I don’t know what I’d do, and I’m not looking forward to finding out in the foreseeable future (I have a tween now, so my days are numbered).

The question is: which came first? The conspiracy theory, or the plan? It could go either way with the party of family values.

Also space and peace of mind. Sewing machines aren’t the largest of machines, but they do require a dedicated space, and can be somewhat noisy.

Don’t they call what you’re looking for “situationships” nowadays?

And if that’s what you want, just be honest about it. The last thing anybody wants is to feel used or to be led on.

Be you, be honest, and be safe!

If you think getting married means you’ll never face a “break up” again, I’ve got some bad news for you….

I’m generally a nice person who wants to help and do right by other people. But, I also have to balance that with my abundant paranoia and distrust of people. So I dunno.

They certainly seem to be a master at it.

I have a weighted blanket. Some nights it’s the best. Some nights I feel trapped by the weight. That aside, I find that if I keep one leg out my body temp is just fine. Otherwise, I get too hot. But also, some nights my leg gets too cold and I need to cover back up.

~“Normal” is a privilege I cannot afford.~