

I like YunoHost. That’s an all-in-one solution to do the selfhosting for you. So you won’t learn a lot about the intricate details of the tech, but you can install things with a few clicks. That’s nice if you just want to use stuff. And that project has some track-record. I’m using it for years to self-host Peertube, Immich a Nextcloud and a few other things.
Maybe that’s more an issue with modern standby? Or the hardware has some quirks. The last two laptops I had were a Thinkpad and now a Dell Latitude. And they both sleep very well. I close the lid and they’ll drain a few battery percent over the day, I open the lid, the display lights up and I can resume work… Rarely any issues with Linux.