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  • A support band for Madness. To call them crap would be an insult to all the genuinely crap bands out there. They went through crap and came out the other side. Then they went through whatever level of shitness that was and came out the other side. I don’t think anyone applauded them, except when they stopped making whatever ungodly racket they were making and went offstage. I’ve never been more relieved to hear a bunch of unmusical talent-free potty-mouthed morons finally STFU.


  • Being trusted in a particular location does not depend on your feelings but on whether or not your behaviour demonstrates that you have earned that trust. Looking for boundaries - how much you can get away with - does not demonstrate you can be trusted, unless you frame it from the other person’s perspective, for example you could ask your mom if she’s comfortable for dates to pick you up from a few houses down the road, and if not how far out you should go. This lets her set the boundary she’s comfortable with and you can gain trust by respecting that boundary and not attempting to push it - in fact go the other way and add 25 yards to it.


  • Your rights as an adult are that you now get to make your own rules and everyone else has to respect them. But the flipside of that is that you also have to respect everyone else’s rules, especially those of a homeowner.

    That homeowner might have rules about whether or not you can wear shoes inside, or whether you can smoke inside, etc. When you own your own place you get to make rules like this yourself, and you will be within your rights to expect your visitors, tenants and offspring to abide by them.

    If for example you make a rule that says “Don’t tell strangers my address” then you would be right to expect your children to abide by that rule.

    This is your mom’s rule and you have to abide by it. Tell your dates to pick you up and drop you off somewhere nearby without giving away your home address, and when you want to invite them home you need your mom’s agreement first, because it’s her house and her rules.

    BTW the “I want it my way!” attitude is that of a kid not an adult. Grown-ups make agreements and stick to them. If you want different rules you can try to negotiate with her, but you have to accept if she won’t change them. There are good reasons for not letting unknown people know your address.


  • Sorry I’m not well enough versed in American politics to know who’s blue or red.

    Whether you should vote or not doesn’t depend on the people around you. It is your right to have your say. The result is the cumulative effect of everyone in your area doing the same. Whether you think you’re surrounded by millions of blues or millions of reds doesn’t make any difference. Your perception may be incorrect, and your analysis, that there is literally zero chance that your vote will matter, is incorrect.

    Nobody knows the results of an election until the votes are in and have been counted. It doesn’t matter that your area has always been red, blue, green, turquoise, pink or whatever. Areas can change allegiance, and it is by individuals getting out and voting.

    If you don’t vote, you strengthen the position of those who vote the other way. It is not considered a protest vote because the system would prefer to consider this as voter apathy. If you want to register a protest vote and “none of the above” isn’t an option, find the official way to spoil your ballot paper and do that, but whatever you do, get out and vote.








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    3 months ago

    I disagree. That’s a consultant-style answer. OP is an idiot newb three months into his first job with zero responsibility, and not in any position to “serve notice” or have any meaningful “professional opinion”.


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    3 months ago

    “This is my first IT job, I’ve only been working here 3 months”

    Then you need to learn this lesson quickly: YOU ARE NOT THE BOSS. The Boss is the Boss. Not you. You make your concerns known to him then you leave it at that.

    “I’m considering talking directly to the owners about this issue” Yeah, going over his head is really going to go down well /s. As you have proven you are hard of learning, let me state clearly: it won’t, that was sarcasm. The owners will see you’ve gone over your boss’s head and when he says “I’ve had enough of this jerk, let’s get someone else in” they’ll be hard pressed to disagree with him.

    “my boss’s refusal puts our operations at risk” Your boss already knows this. Especially as you keep banging on about it. What you’re doing here is heading for an unceremonious out-kicking. Your boss also knows a lot more about the business than you do. If he’s keeping that machine on Win7 then he probably has some good reasons to do so.

    “I want to ensure I handle this professionally” No you don’t. You want to force your boss to do what you think he should do. If you were being professional you’d state your concerns, in email if necessary, then move on.

    “I definitely feel like I’m going to be used as a scapegoat” That’s why you put your concerns in an email (ONLY to your boss, nobody else. Or maybe a sympathetic team member). This creates a paper trail so that if and when they come knocking on your door saying “Why did you let this happen! You’re fired!” you can point to that email which proves you did everything you could. (Which they won’t by the way. You’re an idiot newb three months into your first job. You don’t have any responsibility yet. So this isn’t on you.)

    “I’m also planning on seeking employment elsewhere” It doesn’t matter where you work while you have this attitude. Newsflash kiddo: you’re the asshole here. You’re a newb three months into your first job. No matter what you think you know, you don’t know anything. Instead of trying to dictate to others what you think they should do, try to learn why they’re doing it differently from what you expect. Maybe you have to find somewhere else now; that boat may have already sailed. Maybe if you approach your boss saying something like “er, sorry I was an asshole, I thought I knew more than I do, can we start over and I want to learn from you” (but obvs phrase it better than that) then MAYBE you stand a chance of getting through your first year.

    [Sympathetic mode on.]

    We all have to learn this stuff and it takes time. Your boss also knows this, and remembers when he was an overenthusiastic hothead. So while all the above might seem harsh, especially the YTA bit, hopefully it’ll cause a course correction (which is my intent here) and you’ll be back on track to a successful career in IT. This position may still be salvageable but you need to go in on Monday understanding clearly that it might not be, and that it is your fault. And maybe you need to be fired a few times before this sinks in. Good luck.





  • letsgo@lemm.eetoProgrammer Humor@lemmy.mlgot him
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    4 months ago

    That’s not a real operator. You’ve put a space in “i–” and removed the space in “-- >”. The statement is “while i-- is greater than zero”. Inventing an unnecessary “goes to” operator just confuses beginners and adds something else to think about while debugging.

    And yes I have seen beginners try to use <-- and --<. Just stop it.