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Aka inconsiderate people

Wore a maroon coloured hoodie

The dude who asked me this also stared fixedly at the crotch of my board shorts and asked me “where’s your package, man?” upon me exiting climbing out of a (cold) plunge pool

I clearly looked confused, so he says “where’s your piece?”

Dude clearly spent a fair amount of his time cataloguing the outlines of flaccid penises through boardshorts for whatever fucking reason.

I was offended, ish, till I heard the growers vs show-ers thing. Mine retracts while not in use, it’s quite convenient.

Sometimes the base level of aggression or the base level of inflection is way higher than what you’re locally tuned for.

Anecdotally I have found even business conversations with people from the US to be over the top. Especially through the sales cycle. There is a lot of hype that I need to adjust for in comparison to vendors in the UK, Europe and Asia.

It’s not a bad thing, it’s a social standard. I probably appear quiet reserved and shy by comparison.

Anything that you can think of has already been thought of, modelled, and done by international actors who have more resources, technical capability and time than you, and have far fewer morals.

You want a specific outcome to this election? So do Russia and China. They’re a lot better at this than you are and are orders of magnitude more invested in it.

Gratitude makes you live longer, feel better, and it’s free.

Yeah no. Performance, reliability, uptime are huge.

Younger than 45

Oh OK that actually makes sense.

45 year olds and above are digital immigrants. In short, they had an off-line childhood and an online adulthood. They have different speech and writing patterns to you because they learnt and communicated in a different way to you.

Assuming you’re under 45, this won’t make sense, because you’ve never experienced a world which doesn’t have this sort of interaction. You’re a digital native, digital tech has always been there.

In twenty years time, children born or educated after the advent of chat gpt will have the same problem understanding you. The way you write, post and interact will seem clunky and old fashioned. It’s already happening - we’re having to adapt the way we interact, in order to be able to ‘be understood’ by AI.

The wonderful thing about humanity, tho, is that we do adapt and adopt! Consider this - everyone over the age of 50 had to learn something completely new to them in order to be able to communicate with you via email, sms or messaging app. They used to just talk, or write letters. Sharing media was a physical act. Yet here they are using the same texh as you. Awesome.

It’s missing a comma

Tldr “In this moment, I am euphoric. Not because of any phony god’s blessing. But because, I am enlightened by my intelligence”

Yeah seconded… That worked for me.

I spent a bit of time going through your post history to get an understanding of your background

In short I think your life experiences mean you’ve lost all trust in men. Not just your direct experiences but what you’ve observed in others.

As a result you enter each interaction assuming the worst. Every male social worker you engage with will confirm this pattern because that’s what you’re looking for. The - ah fuck here we go again - feeling.

For them, and I don’t expect you to have empathy for them, this is what they live - the outcomes of other mens behaviours. But - they were there and they tried. That is something.

You have changed quite a lot of your original post.

Very small is 3 people. It’s a small company.

My experience working in a dev company exactly that size -

Pros

Less dead wood (people not carrying their own weight).

Everyone knows everyone well, it’s a tight team

Think it, do it - quick to develop and respond

Less pressure

Feels a bit like a family

More chilled than corporate esp. working from home

More support of networking and linking up with industry peers

Higher degree of trust and support

Way more latitude to do what you want to do

Easy to influence senior leadership

Can offer things like equity etc

If you’re a high performer you will be noticed

Way less red tape

A lot more trust

Company can prosper if everyone works hard

Cons

Company favourites

Can be quite political, although far less so than some large organisations I’ve worked for

Less cover if you’re on leave or similar

Harder to get some things done if money is needed (lower budgets and thinner reserves)

Lower remuneration, fewer levers to pull to get a salary increase

More drama with paychecks etc

Fewer higher skilled people to learn from

Culture can go sideways quickly

Nowhere near the same level of support and benefits provided by the big companies

Tend not to attract the best and brightest talent

Comoany more impacted by economic conditions

It also greatly depends on you and your preferred style. Some people just outright don’t like working for big businesses and prefer smaller gigs.

Maybe you didn’t experience the bullying that was happening, or you weren’t on the outer of the cliques that existed?

In short, because people have different values and are motivated by different things.

Doing something that aligns with your values can be deeply fulfilling! Faith, charity, community, financial independence, respect etc.

Note that there isn’t anything objectively right or wrong about this, or the things that people value, it just is. You might value solitude and rest.

Head to personalvalu.es for examples of values.

None of this matters. Every part of your existence is electrical impulses and chemicals reactions.

No, maybe in some cases, no.

Can I ask - what do you assume happens in a reference check?

Even worse than that - I wear SHOES in the OFFICE. How disgusting is that??!!??

Why do people go barefoot in public

Why do people wear shoes in the office

Why dont3 I ask women if they’re pregnant

Because arbitrary customs that exist which might have a good reason behind them but largely have become things that are considered polite or rude, both of which are societal concepts which themselves are worthy of questioning

I’m just baffled. It seems unnecessarily cruel.