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  • monsterpiece42@reddthat.comtoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Think my radiator temperature thing is broken.. any ideas?
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    7 days ago

    I find your response baffling. I think it was completely out-of-pocket but I’m going to extend a one-time olive branch in good faith that there was some sort of misunderstanding.

    I am open to a proper explanation as to how specifically it was hurtful or disrespectful. And if it was and I’m missing a social cue here, I would love to know how that equates to such an aggressive response. My absolute best guess is, that you read it as “you can’t be good at anything”, but I said “you can’t be good at everything”, which literally implies that you are good at other things.

    I actually was a certified HVAC tech for a few years. I have seen people get seriously hurt not knowing when their system had steam in it or from not being able to control when the boiler kicks on (mostly renters) and steam starts shooting out of the hole mid-repair. I don’t have any way to assess your skills over the internet so I suggested the safe option. Similar logic to, if you don’t know if someone can work on cars, maybe don’t tell them to do their own brakes.

  • monsterpiece42@reddthat.comtoSelfhosted@lemmy.world•Whats on your USB stick? Looking for recommendations for handy tools
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    10 days ago

    I work in a PC repair shop and I run my tool stick on this way. By the way, you can just put a folder in your Ventoy and store non-iso files so you can have portable apps and so on.

    • Acronis (can clone to reduced size drives unlike clonezilla which can only clone to equal or bigger)
    • MemTest86 & MemTest86+ (+ is the FOSS one. Recommend both because sometimes one won’t work)
    • Don’t forget that you can put other stuff in a Ventoy, not just .isos. I have shitlods of utilities in a folder beside all the .isos.
    • Tons more but I just woke up for work. I will make this list much longer when I get there of I can remember to

    Edit: ADHD did ADHD things. Here’s some more stuff. A lot of it is Windows-centric because that’s what we specialize in. ISOs:

    • PC Unlocker (Windows password remover, paid)
    • Gandalf’s Windows Preboot (similar to Hirans, but modern. Paid.)

    Utilities:

    • CrystalDiskInfo (SMART checks and more on SSDs)
    • CrystalDiskMark (SSD benchmark)
    • FastCopy (Windows copy utility. Free)
    • HDTunePro (v5.00 specifically. After this, license binds to a single machine. HDD SMART checks, benchmark, secure erase, sector scans, and more.)
    • OCCT (CPU, GPU, Memory, PSU, and other checks and stress tests. Top-tier tool.)
    • F6 Drivers (drivers for NVMe detection on some laptops)
    • Spacesniffer (visual representation of disk utilization. Similar to WinDirStat, but looks nicer/runs quicker imo. Free.)
  • monsterpiece42@reddthat.comtoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•I think I am socially ostrasized, what should I do?
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    17 days ago

    How likely is it that the people you were tight with were neurodivergent as well? Looking back, I had a huge friend group of probably 25-30 in high school (though I was only close with like 2 of them, and cordial/friendly with the rest) and this left me “off the scent” of discovering my Autism until my 30s. Looking back, I would be surprised if a single person in t hat group wasn’t Autistic or ADHD at least, if not several other things too. We were just lucky enough that we all found each other and didn’t judge. We considered each other “The Island Of Misfit Toys” or the “weird” kids, which I believe tracks well.

    I also found myself to be very polarizing. Either I was super friendly with people or I was literally openly mocked with little in between.

    I also had an isolating phase when I joined the military. I had maybe one to two friends at the best times, and none through most of the rest of the time.

    Later in life (late 20s), I “perfected” my mask and got back on the social side of life but I wasn’t happy. Only recently have I learned what Autistic masking is and how to stop doing it, and I’m fairly close with about 6 people now, which is the most real friends I have ever had.

  • monsterpiece42@reddthat.comtoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•I think I am socially ostrasized, what should I do?
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    19 days ago

    Might be time to do a little research my friend.

    The extremely oversimplified and short version of it is, a trauma mask is something that kicks in automatically to protect you. Autistic masking is a form of trauma masking and it is fully automatic and usually not known to the person that they are doing it. We learn the skills to get through most normal social situations, but beyond that there is little development. So we do all the neurotypical things to blend in and it works until people realize that it’s fake, and then they feel like they’ve been deceived and they don’t like us.

    The fix for this is, as you go on a journey of self-discovery and learn how to stop masking you will present yourself as your authentic self, and attract the right kind of friends. It is a difficult journey, and especially because almost always we don’t realize that we’re doing it at all. I don’t know if you believe that your neurodivergent or autistic, but I also believe that there are other neurotypes that are able to trauma mask similarly to autistic masking. You may find good company in an autistic community because they will understand how that works. There’s also something oddly comforting knowing that you’re in a group of “weird” people and it will help you get your real self out.

    I am by no means an expert on this but I found out that I am autistic after over 30 years of living on this earth. Everything before that was fueled by masking and it has currently become the new most interesting thing that I know of. If I can help with advice or information, or if I can help by just listening, feel free to shoot me a DM!

  • monsterpiece42@reddthat.comtoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•I think I am socially ostrasized, what should I do?
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    19 days ago

    If you’re autistic, there’s a good chance that autistic masking is the root cause here. If you have social anxiety especially, your mask will kick in automatically (subconsciously) and come off as fake to most people, and they will not like you for it. A quick test for this is, are you good at making a good first impression or short time of friendship and then it kinda falls off with time? If yes, masking is likely in play. I highly recommend the book Unmasking Autism even if you’re not autistic. It applies to others as well and it is excellent.

    The short term (maybe long term…?) solution is to make autistic friends. They’ll understand “the weird” and it should be much simpler. Try searching around your local area for autism or neurodivergent clubs and see how you feel around other similarly-minded people.

  • monsterpiece42@reddthat.comtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Why is music so loud in restaurants? (Serious)
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    1 month ago

    So I’m not a doctor but as I understand it, CAT-Q effectively is a booster for the RAADS-R. A lot of the RAADS-R is either understanding or recognizing the symptoms of autism, but people who are high masking (aka “camouflaged”) have often learned to hide/not notice their autistic traits. Reminder of course, the “A” in CAT-Q means “autistic”.

    That said, I think 100+ on RAADS-R before a fairly high CAT-Q is something worth considering alone.

    I have a special interest in psychology and if this was something related to a mental health condition I would be the first to tell you that the best way to learn is peer-reviewed studies, published references like the DSM-5 (imperfect as it may be) and so on. However, autism is not a psychological issue, it’s a neurological difference. This means that the best way to learn is to talk to autistic people (which you currently are!) and see if the little things that make you/them “weird” resonate with each other. If you’re feeling more introverted than that, you could maybe find an autistic YouTuber that “clicks” with you and see how their experience compares to yours.

  • monsterpiece42@reddthat.comtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•How do you inform yourself on topics which don't belong to your field of expertise?
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    2 months ago

    Not the other guy but I learn a lot of high quality information of YouTube. The golden rule for me is longer-form video is generally higher quality. People that know what they’re talking about typically aren’t going to explain complex things in 30 seconds, or at least not to the depth you should understand it.

    Aside from that, I look for people with actual qualifications first. Example, I love psychology so I will look for psychologists, licensed professional counselors, and so on. I’ll even listen to life coaches, but more selectively.

    The lower on the “chain” they are, the more I will do “spot checks” on information and see if they know what they’re talking about (ESPECIALLY if they’re making big or new claims about something). For that I’ll look into peer-reviewed studies and such for that.

    Once you get a small knowledge base it’s a little easier to continue. Talk something you have a clue about, and watch a video with that topic from another content creator.

    Do all of this for a while and you’ll find what you need to.