I don’t feel some gender either, but my agab has always felt off, like ill-fitting clothes. Also due to the cultural/societal expectations and limitations instilled during upbringing, which made me further reject the idea of ‘being’ my agab.

I’ve come to think that if I had been assigned the opposite gender, maybe I would have felt it equally ill-fitting.

A few years ago I came across the concept of agender and it resonated. It took off pressure of the need for there to be something, where there is nothing, and it’s ok.

I had added it as pfp but then read someone saying smth about how “bad” handmade art is better, I liked the idea to try and make a silly drawing myself, then never got around to it.

So you could say the difference…

Is subtle.

I’ll see myself out.

Ooh that’s an easy one, it’s from this comment, credits to OP.

I’ve seen variations of it around here in other comments too, but this was the first one I saw and it cracked me up, so I took it. I’m some bigot’s worst nightmare

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Thank you, it’s easy to see it when it happens to me but if I’m the one leaving things hanging I feel like either a missed opportunity or that I’m somewhat being rude (I’m not, and most likely the other party didn’t think nothing of it. I’m working on my sometimes distorted inner narrative).

This is a good insight; sometimes I feel like I have to know stuff to make a meaningful contribution, when maybe just cheering on can be enough.

I find it hard to keep a conversation going, maybe lack of skill on my part but usually idk what to reply and hit a dead end. So most of the time I just upvote in appreciation for taking the time to respond.

Thank you for taking the time to reply and thoroughly so.

I think the best differentiation you made between ontology and religion is key. My issue with religious texts is that they (usually but not always) demand a full commitment with other practices and beliefs that I don’t find fitting for me personally, and it seems like an all or nothing approach, so I end up quitting.

Let alone as you mention how these ancient practices have been stripped of their original intentions to be made more palatable to western audiences. Not only that, but now some people have even tried to co-opt them by sticking a western religious approach, further (imo) disrespecting and confounding.

I’m being kinda contradictory, and this is why I haven’t sorted out my internal conflict between the search for inner peace -I wouldn’tbe so pretentious as to call it enlightment-, and my unwillingness to submit to religious dogma (I’ve had enough bad experiences, and not only with one religion).

I used to get really annoyed with blatant errors but I’ve grown more tolerant whenever they seem to be bona fide.

What I find a harder time with is the anti intellectual attitude of some people (I’m speaking overall online, not specifically on Lemmy), where writing poorly is used as a kind of code. And in the same vein, people who write using proper grammar and spelling being mocked.

Do you care to elaborate?

I’ve tried getting into both a few times, to the point of noticing some benefits, but I fall off the wagon bc everything I read about it quickly goes into religious territory.