They used to be better. I had a lot of success when they were relatively new. However the culture around them has gotten worse and more toxic, and the companies have grown more abusive of customers. Just what I gather… I haven’t tried since 2019.

Tinder was okay for meeting people interested in actual relationships when it was newer. It seemed to turn into more of purely a shallow hookup site. I tried Bumble, and that worked, though it apparently is not as good as it used to be. Never tried Hinge or any of the others.

Thinking more about psychology helped me have success on the apps. Don’t be boring, start real conversations. I got some very good advice once from a friend, which was “if a girl is on tinder, she’s horny”. I was… oh. That makes sense. It helped me be less nervous. You could also say lonely or bored. In my experience it’s not hard to figure out if someone is after the same things as you are. I’ve never used them to just hookup, only find steady girlfriends. I did find some situations more like hookups, casual GFs or FWB though. A few dates fizzled. I’ve gotten together with about 15 women I met on Tinder/Bumble and 6 of them turned into steady relationships. I can’t say they were the most sane people I’ve ever met.

I know this dude who started a really half-ass “predator finder” website. It’s kinda suspicious. Oh, and then he started dating a 17 year old when he was 23.

Cheese

Hopefully you have more insight now as to why that is.

Not sure why this isn’t clear to you, but being a gardener is brought up because it’s almost the only job experience he has, and it is obviously not related to counter terrorism. It is not mentioned with the intent of criticizing gardeners.

It doesn’t mean they have no skills. Just that the job doesn’t require a specific set of skills or knowledge, unlike a cabinet position.

Did you consider reading the article?

It was already tabled.

I’m referring to things I explicitly signed up for.

If you try unsubbing and it doesn’t work, then that fits. I just suspect a lot of people don’t even try. I’m just tired of having things I signed up for ant want show up in spam.

Most recently I ordered some merch from Atari and all of their mails went to spam, including responses from customer service, which is annoying because I thought they just never wrote back.

Not lately. My gmails Spam sections mostly have legitimate marketing and news emails that idiots have apparently reported as spam instead of just unsubscribing from.

It seemed pretty out of left field. Like, okay… I’m not clicking on any of that. No explanation of why someone would message me this and as I expected, it seems to have been some sort of widespread spam.

Oh, annoying. I’d seen those albums pop up on YouTube and wondered how I’d never heard of it before.

Sure. You complained about that opinion, but it doesn’t mean I can’t hold that opinion. I don’t agree with your observations or conclusions. We don’t need more dimwit asshole conservatives here, if that’s what you mean by ‘wider audience’. That group already whines that Reddit is too leftist for them. I don’t really agree that Lemmy is more extreme in that regard, other than specific instances like .ml or grad. The politics I see here are not more extreme and I don’t find the user base ‘repellant’ at all, and I hold fairly typical US left views (would like more socialism, believe in human rights, universal healthcare, oppose racism, etc).

I don’t really get that either. New users are immediately presented with posts and communities they can interact with, and all of the functions are familiar to anyone who has used reddit or forums. The interface is straightforward and uncluttered, as far as what that contributes to the user experience. Also I have never found federation confusing.

I guess OP is talking about the attitude of personality of lemmy members and I don’t agree with that, either. The 2-3 people on reddit quoted in the post are clueless and there’s no indication they represent a significant and amount of people’s perceptions. “Endless wars about federation” - what? There was controversy for like 1 week several months ago.

I seriously have no idea what you’re talking about.

So Lemmy is filtering out people who can’t take 5 minutes to understand a simple concept and make a decision?

Um… okay, if the fairly mainstream for our demographic politics here repels certain people, good.

Maybe I’m more tech oriented than many, but I don’t find federation confusing at all. I’ve never understood why it’s described that way.

Those comments are fairly meaningless. Federation wars? Where? There was some controversy like a year ago from why I recall and everyone has moved way on. I wouldn’t even consider that UX either.