I was in a talking stage with a woman and she said she had feelings for me but did not want to do any romantic stuff and realized because of her trauma, she was not ready for a relationship. So, I wonder, is it because trauma can interfere with relationships or is it a matter of not actually liking someone romantically if you don’t want to be romantic with them. Everyone presents trauma differently, so for me, I wanna be super romantic with people. I’m not trying to be an ass, I’m trying to understand.
Are you conflating romantic stuff with physical stuff here? You can feel romantically attracted to someone without feeling sexually attracted to them.
That being said, she could also just not be comfortable with physical touch because of her trauma (as she told you). That is absolutely a common way for trauma to present itself.
Thank you, that makes sense. I don’t understand romantic feelings without wanting to kiss someone because I have very little understanding of that stuff.