Hypothetically, if they are truly professional and in operations rather than being analysts, etc., they would leave work at work but basically be too exhausted to truly helicopter-parent at home. I’m projecting a bit though, because once you become a parent you are exhausted beyond belief (substitute “I” for all those “you”s, heh)

Depends on the generation of the parent too, I think (have they kept up with modern surveillance technologies?). If you haven’t watched the TV show “The Americans” it could be interesting. Set in the 80s but there’s two kid/teen children of agents in it, so secrets kind of start going both ways