It’s strange to me that OP started sharing a bed at 8 years old and continued into their teens. At that point, it would make sense to start enforcing independence.

Well I don’t exactly remember before that… memories are like fuzzy, maybe I also did it before.

8 years old was when my family immigrated to the US, btw.

So it sounds like OP’s mother has some extreme anxiety and self-worth issues, which she reinforced by over-mothering her “child” long past the stage where they should’ve been growing up and learning independence.

But I remember the oxytocin felt good tho ngl…