Do people actually care if a rich, beautiful girl dates a poor guy? Do people actually care if a 10/10 woman dates an “ugly” guy? People will see couples like that and say, “He’s out of her league.” Do people actually care about this? If Jessica Chastain, Angelina Jolie, or Alexandra Daddario dated a 25-year-old man (or woman) who works at a grocery store while attending college, would people actually care, judge, and look down on it? (Real people, not just keyboard people.)
Twist the question:
Do you really care if your partner lives-in instagram “reality” or in what you experience as reality?!
Appearance-based “league” costs: it costs attention, focus, dedication, & resources.
Some care about experience-induced-value, others about appearance-based-value, & it shows.
Had a friend tell me once they lost a friend to modeling: it ate her brain.
Now all she could discuss were makeup & hair.
Was Einstein at the bottom, or the top, of “league”, once he’d become a philosopher?
See?
One’s values is the basis of “league”.
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