When I was 17 (NB) I dated “Emma” (15F). We broke up when she was 16 and I had just turned 18. She said she wasn’t a good girlfriend, but I think differently. I think I was a bad partner.

I feel a nervous, tingling sensation in my chest and stomach when I think about Emma, and sometimes my face gets hot. I wouldn’t mind kissing her and I miss our relationship a little, but it’s also okay for me to just be friends, because I don’t know if she still likes girls/non-binary people.

What should I do? Do I still like her romantically? I have a girlfriend and queerplatonic partner, but I am also polyamorous.

I would either not risk making my girlfriend especially upset and not say anything because Emma doesn’t wanna date anyone, or I’d get it off my chest.

    • SincerityIsCool@lemmy.ca
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      2 days ago

      I would add another caveat that if you’re in a committed relationship, you owe it to existing partners when starting up a new relationship to ensure that they’re comfortable with the change and feel that their relationship is honoured.

      If you can’t do that it’s not actually a committed relationship, it’s solo poly. If you have absolute freedom to date anyone you want, the corrolary is your partners are left only with the choice to stay with the relationship as it is, or leave.

      • Eddie [any]@feddit.orgOP
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        2 days ago

        Ahhhh, I understand. I will definitely ask them if it’s ok with them if I end up confessing to her