When I was 17 (NB) I dated “Emma” (15F). We broke up when she was 16 and I had just turned 18. She said she wasn’t a good girlfriend, but I think differently. I think I was a bad partner.
I feel a nervous, tingling sensation in my chest and stomach when I think about Emma, and sometimes my face gets hot. I wouldn’t mind kissing her and I miss our relationship a little, but it’s also okay for me to just be friends, because I don’t know if she still likes girls/non-binary people.
What should I do? Do I still like her romantically? I have a girlfriend and queerplatonic partner, but I am also polyamorous.
I would either not risk making my girlfriend especially upset and not say anything because Emma doesn’t wanna date anyone, or I’d get it off my chest.
Have you and your girlfriend figured out how in the loop you each want to be in each other’s meta relationships? You should feel comfortable coming to your girlfriend and admitting you have feelings for someone you’re hanging out with regularly. For your girlfriend’s part, it’s okay for them if they lean into the compersion of it and want to hear everything about you and Emma, or (if they maybe have some jealousy they might need to work through) ask you to just keep details to yourself.
As far as Emma goes, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with saying to someone that you’re happy with your current relationship style, but also open to being more intimate if they are. Leave it at that and assume you’re still just friends until Emma suggests otherwise.