I’ve noticed that if I say “I won’t do this anymore at all”, it doesn’t work. But if I say “I’ll only spend this much this month on sex workers, gambling, etc.” I’m able to mellow down. I’ve also noticed some people suggest that moderation doesn’t work and you should try to be as cold turkey as possible.
Exactly this. People use the word way too casually these days, but addiction literally means something that’s out of your control despite specific efforts to control it.
One of those efforts is usually moderation though, so when you see someone questioning or struggling with moderation in a true addiction, you know that there’s hope for them to get clean. They are “contemplative.”