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Cake day: February 14th, 2025

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  • Walking. If youre overweight, don’t need the vest. You live with it. Work up to a fast shuffle/jog, and/or longer walks over a period of weeks.

    At the opposite end of the intensity spectrum, Burpees are also great fun. They build upper body and core strength, as well as being cardio. Do the full chest and thighs to ground version, step back, step forward and experiment with jumping back as you get better. Try something like on the minute for 5 min. Set a timer for 5:00, then burpee until it says 4:20 - at a moderate pace. That number is your target for the next 4 min. When it says 4:00, do that number of burpees again, and at 3:00, 2:00, and 1:00. Work up in number of burpees and number of minutes, over a period of weeks. If it’s getting too easy, make it burpee box jump overs (be conservative because missing a box hurts).

    You don’t need equipment for either of these things.

    With both these things, as you lose weight, it’s going to get a lot faster.

    I’m not here to tell you how to live, but if you’re getting high every night, it’s almost certainly making your anxiety, depression, and motivation issues worse.






  • I run all the scheduling in the thermostat, because I lose automatic recovery and some aspects of Thresholding, and the rest of the family doesn’t use HA. However, I can’t set certain items (for example, how often the fan runs) in the thermostat’s schedule so I automate those portions with HA.

    Matter has limitations, and may not include all the capabilities you want exposed.

    For the scheduling it’s basic. Wake, sleep, work, weekends. I have some settings for my high rate time periods as well, and use Proximity for setting the away thermostat.

    Meross’s own FAQ addresses why you need to use their app for setup - it’s so that you can tell it what kind of system you have. It’s fairly important.










  • In response to your edit - micromanaging is standard. It’s super awesome when the PI is telling you how to run a procedure they haven’t run themselves or haven’t done in 10 years. /s

    One thing I forgot to mention is that you’ve got people with zero industry experience and zero managerial training walking into their supervisory role on the merit of their educational and research background. They just don’t know (and have the Dunning Kreuger effect in spades) that they’re being managerial jerks. ASD or not. Huge “manage your manager” challenge in academia.

    And with ASD, we get into a habit of trying to communicate with neurotypicals and in America especially it’s expected to sugarcoat and kowtow in every communication with the manager but that’s not always a great thing to do with ASD people as you’re aware. Clarity without confrontation is the fine line that you’ll need to walk.


  • This may be unhelpful, because it’s based on limited data and specific scenarios, but my experience working in academia is that clear explicit communication helps a lot, and suspending judgement until a relationship and trust is established helps too - and that can take a really long time. Try to take a step back and not get emotionally involved with things, but keep the receipts and escalate if things do truly get out of hand. Having someone you can talk to and trust to be critical of your method of handling the situation can helps with perspective.

    Some academics are just assholes. Seems most are on the autism spectrum, and that makes it hard to interact with. Aside from neurodivergence, it’s not hard for a perceived slight to get blown out of proportion for a variety of reasons.

    As you’re noting you’re going to have to grin and bear it for a while until you can get the residency sorted out. Doing excellent work that’s in demand can definitely help with establishing relationships, but obviously that depends on the situation.





  • It’s not too surprising. But I do have to seriously question why anyone would try to have a family in the circumstances of Palestine. I struggle to justify it for myself, living in a first world democratic country, because of climate change and overpopulation concerns I have. I can’t imagine considering it in a country that’s permanently under oppression by their ethnic supremacist neighbours.

    ETA: It may not be clear. I’m empathizing with the situation that a young Palestinian couple would find themselves in. Choosing to introduce a child into their world with little hope for improvement is an agonizing choice, and yet there’s the constant challenge that if they don’t, they as a people risk dying out.