Was meant to catch up with a friend at 3. Last night she changed it to 3:30 because a new update for a game she’s playing is out. Whatever, that’s fine. I tell her to text me when she’s leaving so I can leave then. She’s fine with that.
I decided to leave earlier and get there at 3:30, because I have a jazz playlist I want to listen to. But it hits 3:30, and she still hasn’t texted me saying she’s left. She sends me a picture of her game asking which option I liked more. I asked her if she’s left and she said no. She does live a 5 minute drive away from where we’re meeting, so I guess that’s not too bad. She is apologising profusely. Now it’s been 15 minutes since we were supposed to meet, and she said she has to brush her teeth and wash her face. She is nocturnal because of her (undiagnosed but probable) gaming addiction.
Am I overreacting? I am pissed off even though she’s going to be 20 minutes late, but it wasn’t because of something like traffic or PTV issues. She could control it. Last week she also pissed me off because she’s unemployed and using her dad’s money. She said, when buying food,
“It’s not my money. I don’t care.”
I need new friends. I downloaded Bumble for Friends today. Hoping I can get a group of people together and make at least one friend from there. I need friends that don’t trauma dump on me or are selfish.
But not actually doing anything about fixing her behaviour? That’s crappy, you deserve better than that. Even if you had waited for her to text to, she’s still leaving you waiting when agreed on a time and then chose to game. And the rub salt in the wound by sending you a picture of said game.
Sorry, that makes me very angry on your behalf. You are not overreacting, she is not respecting you.
Oh no. I think the experience is different for girls as guys a few were there looking for friends. I have a couple of acquaintances who met their close friends from there.
We ended up playing video games, and one of them I am especially bad at. She enjoys spending time with me just hanging out, but if she plays with someone who has a lower skill level, it works out better for her.
I think a lot of the time, at my age, people fall out with their friends or just become more isolated, as everyone goes their separate ways after studying. I know a couple of people who met some of their closest friends from there and they’ve just gone overseas together. But I will be cautious.
Good luck, I hope you find a nice group. It’s an accepting scene so a few dick heads slip through the cracks. I think I’m twice your age, my connections might be a bit old.
Was meant to catch up with a friend at 3. Last night she changed it to 3:30 because a new update for a game she’s playing is out. Whatever, that’s fine. I tell her to text me when she’s leaving so I can leave then. She’s fine with that.
I decided to leave earlier and get there at 3:30, because I have a jazz playlist I want to listen to. But it hits 3:30, and she still hasn’t texted me saying she’s left. She sends me a picture of her game asking which option I liked more. I asked her if she’s left and she said no. She does live a 5 minute drive away from where we’re meeting, so I guess that’s not too bad. She is apologising profusely. Now it’s been 15 minutes since we were supposed to meet, and she said she has to brush her teeth and wash her face. She is nocturnal because of her (undiagnosed but probable) gaming addiction.
Am I overreacting? I am pissed off even though she’s going to be 20 minutes late, but it wasn’t because of something like traffic or PTV issues. She could control it. Last week she also pissed me off because she’s unemployed and using her dad’s money. She said, when buying food,
“It’s not my money. I don’t care.”
I need new friends. I downloaded Bumble for Friends today. Hoping I can get a group of people together and make at least one friend from there. I need friends that don’t trauma dump on me or are selfish.
But not actually doing anything about fixing her behaviour? That’s crappy, you deserve better than that. Even if you had waited for her to text to, she’s still leaving you waiting when agreed on a time and then chose to game. And the rub salt in the wound by sending you a picture of said game.
Sorry, that makes me very angry on your behalf. You are not overreacting, she is not respecting you.
Next time I will wait for that text before leaving, but the fact that she sent a time.
Please report on how BFF goes! I just looked it up and am disappointed to be told I can’t be friends with guys. This is dumb.
I will!
I thought you can be friends with guys. I’ve seen some on there.
I tried it and it was basically a free hook up app for gay guys. No one was looking for a platonic friend.
Sounds like Skout. Supposedly for friends but almost everyone just wanted to hook up and sell drugs.
Oh no. I think the experience is different for girls as guys a few were there looking for friends. I have a couple of acquaintances who met their close friends from there.
I’ve had friends like that. They alleviate loneliness in the here and now, but it doesn’t pay off down the track.
Yeah absolutely.
omg, this is like the opposite of what an average person would think and say
does she earn her keep at home or is she a princess?
because a lot of people, like me, don’t work but work their butt off at home to earn their keep
Yep she helps her dad out with his business.
We ended up playing video games, and one of them I am especially bad at. She enjoys spending time with me just hanging out, but if she plays with someone who has a lower skill level, it works out better for her.
I’d be pissed as well.
Excuses excuses excuses, I can’t really be ok with that
Her attitude is basically if it’s her skin or responsibility then she can shrug it off and do whatever she wants.
FYI https://www.reddit.com/r/bumblebff/comments/1bhy7xz/this_creepy_man_wont_give_upkeeps_making_new/
Be careful as you don’t know who you’re meeting. Anyone can pretend to be anything on the internet.
Also still be cautious as even if the person is a girl looking for friends, because there’s a reason some of them don’t have any.
Cheers. That is true.
I think a lot of the time, at my age, people fall out with their friends or just become more isolated, as everyone goes their separate ways after studying. I know a couple of people who met some of their closest friends from there and they’ve just gone overseas together. But I will be cautious.
What are your hobbies? Can you find hobby groups and then friends within that?
My hobbies tend to be more solitary and at a beginner level. I’m thinking of joining a run club once I get better at running. Also want to try DnD.
DnD is a great place to make friends. Try to find a group of your peers. Many Uni’s have role playing clubs as well as a bunch of options around town.
I shall look into it, thanks!
Good luck, I hope you find a nice group. It’s an accepting scene so a few dick heads slip through the cracks. I think I’m twice your age, my connections might be a bit old.