It totally is just a transactional thing, I can handle a “how are you” most of the time as it’s just an extension of “hi” (although yes, harder to lie through your teeth when you’re really not feeling it) but the whole weekend thing is just way too long for my liking especially when I simply can’t match the mood of the other person.
There are some people I will always have time for re: a genuine response to how are you etc, but because of experiences like the ones you have also had, I am very selective. I think I’ve gotten better at working out when someone might be a one-directional dumper - esp when interacting with the public during site visits.
It totally is just a transactional thing, I can handle a “how are you” most of the time as it’s just an extension of “hi” (although yes, harder to lie through your teeth when you’re really not feeling it) but the whole weekend thing is just way too long for my liking especially when I simply can’t match the mood of the other person.
There are some people I will always have time for re: a genuine response to how are you etc, but because of experiences like the ones you have also had, I am very selective. I think I’ve gotten better at working out when someone might be a one-directional dumper - esp when interacting with the public during site visits.