• Scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.techEnglish
    76·
    2 days ago

    I called out my dad for his hateful views on social media. Really hateful. Like calling Michelle Obama a monkey and calling for the extermination of lgbtq+. I told him I’ve had more people in those groups help me in my life than he ever has, and by being passive towards his hate I was dishonoring them and the work they did for me.

    He wrote me out of his will. (I didn’t lose much, he made near minimum wage his whole life, but it’s all he had left to do). He hasn’t spoken to me in 9 years now since then. Don’t care. Much better people have filled the role.

      • seraphine@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        17·
        1 day ago

        “you only got one family”

        “yeah you only have one appendix too but when that starts screwing with your health you cut it out of your life too”

    • manuallybreathing@lemmy.ml
      14·
      1 day ago

      My parents had a negative reaction when I came out to them in my late 20s, a decade on theyre mostly over it, I hope it workouts for you. People are complex and take time to understand things, you just have to keep showing up.

      I found it helped to remind myself how long I struggled with these ideas internally. My family isnt’ perfect, but as the ending from Some Like it Hot says: nobody’s perfect

    • halcyoncmdr@lemmy.worldEnglish
      181·
      1 day ago

      Lucifer dared to question his father and was cast out for eternity and demonized for not blindly obeying. Not surprising he’d be a bit salty about that.

      IIRC in the Bible Lucifer only kills one person, versus the millions God kills at a whim, usually for disobeying some bullshit he came up with that he never told anyone about.

      Satan really just runs the place for God’s undesirables. Why would you want to worship the largest mass murderer in history in the first place though?

      Assuming the stories and parables are true, or even based on any sort of reality, which of course they aren’t.

      • Ziggurat@jlai.lu
        14·
        1 day ago

        In the 80’s/90’s there was a huge satanic panic and RPG player were part of it. At the time the hobby was mysterious, many players are neurodivergent, and seen as socially awkward or edgy and as soon as a RPG player committed suicide, it was because of D&D. Not the other way around (depressed kid plays RPG to be with similar people, but still ends up dying from the depression).

        To be fair, at the time the hobby also played on this image with games like In nomine Satanis or simply Vampire and it’s only recently that the community add a huge focus on emotional safety and inclusions.

  • TheFeatureCreature@lemmy.caEnglish
    35·
    2 days ago

    My mother abandoned her kids shortly after birth. I haven’t had contact with her for 20ish years. My sibling has kept loose contact and my mother has treated them like garbage and even robbed them on one occasion.

    So I guess the answer is: nothing.

  • Drewmeister@lemmy.world
    25·
    1 day ago

    That’s really hard to narrow down; I suspect that she didn’t really want me from some point in childhood onward. When I was a teen she said that her duty to God was completed once I turned 18, and she’d be rid of me. When I turned 17, she developed short-timers syndrome, if you’ll pardon the slang, and I was kicked out. God’s gonna be so maaaaaaaddd!

    It was hard going for 10 or so years, but I’m 38 now and doing just fine.

  • Aralakh@lemmy.ca
    19·
    2 days ago

    My siblings and I are living life on our own terms rather than be what our emotionally immature parents wanted us to be; follow the culture, religion, and their ideal success virtues. They’re still in my life, but at a distance and limit, as I ain’t got time for conditional love and endless comparisons.