I feel like you’re kind of teeing people up too much with this question like why does it need to be toxic
Firstly it’s something I’ve experienced recently (having to end a toxic relationship) and secondly I’m intrigued on how many people choose to go to the gym to better themself after a similar event.
And I feel like it can be motivation for some people reading stuff like this because it shows that they aren’t alone and that other people are in similar positions, and I suppose it shows people what experiences others has had and will maybe help them choose to go to the gym or something other than that.
Going to the gym is way easier than the infinite treadmill of trying to fix relationship which was never going to work. Having a stronger body helps to deal with the physical symptoms of trauma too. It can build confidence because working hard in the gym yields rewards but working too hard backfires. You have to listen to your own body and your own feelings rather than have them dictated to you by a toxic partner, or it won’t work.
It is easy for some but unfortunately I feel like for some people they end up finally pushing themself to go to the gym because of a break up. But I’d agree the gym helps a lot. And you are surrounded by other people who are there to better themselves by working out.
My mind just never wants to immediately go a positive route whenever toxic relationships end. I always end up just wasting enormous amounts of time doing nothing or just eating myself to death.
Eating and not wanting to do anything is common, but believe me force yourself to do something out of your comfort zone or simply force yourself to go out somewhere. I know it’s hard to do but it’ll help you I promise.
Yes. It was unrelated to the relationship though. The result is that most of my random aches and pains are gone. I can do a lot of strength related things I used to have to ask for help with, and I look great when I take my shirt off.
Youll be better off going to the gym for yourself and not revenge or whatever
I went for myself, but I do channel a lot of anger I built up into working out, because that’s where I can vent it all.
Going to the gym in order to get shredded so that you can show off to your ex just isn’t worth it. So I agree you need to go for yourself. The looks are just a cherry on top.
I did! The outcome has been that I go to the gym now lol, these days about 2-4 times a month depending on how I feel. I was trying to chase the dragon of a tight tummy for the first six months and was regularly going 3 times a week, but slowed down once I realized that my bloating probably has other causes.
Ran on a treadmill a couple of times, but then lost steam. Drank and spent time with strippers instead. Still wound up meeting and falling in love with the kindest and most beautiful girl I’ve ever been with, and now I don’t feel the need for the liquor and loose women anymore.
“Hit the gym” is a lie that Big Gym tells you so you’ll get stuck in an un-cancellable subscription. /s
I suppose it’s down to each person and what they feel will work best for themselves, personally I’ve gone back to the gym after two years because of multiple events (including me having to end a toxic relationship) and I found that channeling any anger along with all them feelings that are picking away at your mind into Woking out, really does give you a boost and for me has 100% helped me feel better and is helping me recover from what in my opinion put me into a very dark place in my mind.
It doesn’t surprise me that marketers figured out that people going through a break up is an audience to profit from.
I actually only have motivation to workout hard when I’m in a relationship and happy
I did not hit the gym, but after dumping her I suddenly had no problems in life and found the energy to start jogging, lifting weights, doing bodyweight fitness exercises, cooking, reading, professional self-improvement, and now I have a new higher-paying career and a much better social life with my friends. Only thing that hasn’t yet panned out is finding a new girlfriend, but I’m optimistic that could happen soon too. 🤞
Well, you sound like a catch!
I chose to go to the other side of the continent and back, with my faithful furball by my side. (Took nearly a year) Now, we’re putting down roots in a far better city, thousands of miles and innumerable degrees of separation from her crazy ass. Winning. Tough AF, but finally winning, I think. 🥲
I hope everything works out for you, and I’m positive you’ll be okay.
Wasn’t my choice to end it, but working out did help, the physical discomfort dulls the emotional pain. Although I did it at home rather than going to a gym. Years later I’m still more in shape than I was before that episode.
I’m happy for you, I’m glad working out made you feel better
