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idk if “gentle” is the right term, I was thinking “温柔” and its the best translation I guess
Feel free to share anecdotes, or scientific studies if you have any.
So my mom was kinda like half and half… I feel like I absored half of the “gentleness” and half of the rage…
Dad was kinda just neutral… like stoic as hell except a few times of getting mad…


This seems like the Nature vs Nurture question in what influences a person’s personality during the earlier development years and I’m pretty sure the answer to it is currently unknown. I also don’t think there is really any ethical way to test it.
It’s not unknown, it’s just that it’s not one or the other. We solved nature vs nurture a long time ago, you just change the vs to and. Why would only one factor matter when both are ever-present?
In this case, it seems nature and nurture would be pointing in the same direction, though, since mothers generally raise their own children. So if either nature or nurture had an effect, you’d expect it to have a result.