Can see both sides. Is there some way to make it a ritual? At a time of day sit/hug her? Like morning and night, hug and talk to her, then move. I am not saying move on or that you restrict your feelings but I find it helps to ritualise grief, by allowing it it’s space you can feel all the feelings and also live? Sorry not being articulate.
(For reference triggered to cry my eyes out over someone who’s been gone for a decade today. So I get it. Any way through is ok. )
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Can see both sides. Is there some way to make it a ritual? At a time of day sit/hug her? Like morning and night, hug and talk to her, then move. I am not saying move on or that you restrict your feelings but I find it helps to ritualise grief, by allowing it it’s space you can feel all the feelings and also live? Sorry not being articulate.
(For reference triggered to cry my eyes out over someone who’s been gone for a decade today. So I get it. Any way through is ok. )
Grief isn’t trauma. They’re different things. Melba can hug that urn as often and as long as they need
I hug the urn at night because she used to sleep in my arms
hugs