One thing I’ve learned is that you can go for two hours then bail. You don’t have to be the last to leave, you can even be the first. I’m the oldest and brokest of my cousins.
It’s really tough going through all the emotions and pain of getting out of bad relationship dynamics. I look at my sibs and some are happy with the way thing are, they are the abusers, and others are miserable. They are the victims. But none seem to make efforts to question or change . They seem more stable but stable as what?
A lot of could just be…well how do you approach a subject like that? I don’ t mean just checking in saying “howya doing?” but even acknowledging the depth and breadth of something like that is just something a lot of people just can’t fucking handle or even begin to handle, so they get weird about it and decide pretending after the fact is a tactic. Which doesn’t fucking help, but at the same time, aggravatingly, you can’t fault them for not being able to handle it.
You have no idea how much that shit sets you back in life. While other kids are building skills and confidence and networking you’re stuck in survival mode and start out at a massive disadvantage.
Look at it like this. If you’re not able to thrive to that level yet and unable to provide whatever it is that they want, is it really your fault? What did they give you? It was their job to build you up and since that didn’t happen they don’t reap the fruits.
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Mate, just don’t go. Look after you. You owe nobody anything. Hugs ❤️
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You don’t need to do anything that makes you uncomfortable.
One thing I’ve learned is that you can go for two hours then bail. You don’t have to be the last to leave, you can even be the first. I’m the oldest and brokest of my cousins.
You’re not behind, you 1) survived 2) are getting healthy and 3) are starting to thrive.
that’s a bigger accomplishment.
I agree.
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It’s really tough going through all the emotions and pain of getting out of bad relationship dynamics. I look at my sibs and some are happy with the way thing are, they are the abusers, and others are miserable. They are the victims. But none seem to make efforts to question or change . They seem more stable but stable as what?
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A lot of could just be…well how do you approach a subject like that? I don’ t mean just checking in saying “howya doing?” but even acknowledging the depth and breadth of something like that is just something a lot of people just can’t fucking handle or even begin to handle, so they get weird about it and decide pretending after the fact is a tactic. Which doesn’t fucking help, but at the same time, aggravatingly, you can’t fault them for not being able to handle it.
Ignore can function multiple directions. Hugs.
You have no idea how much that shit sets you back in life. While other kids are building skills and confidence and networking you’re stuck in survival mode and start out at a massive disadvantage.
Look at it like this. If you’re not able to thrive to that level yet and unable to provide whatever it is that they want, is it really your fault? What did they give you? It was their job to build you up and since that didn’t happen they don’t reap the fruits.
I think they get what they gave. /shrug
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Yeah sorry, not criticising. Just reinforcing that you don’t owe them anything.
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All good!
I bet Spud gives them more time and care they ever gave her.
Agreed
You are amazing and we all love and respect you so much. 😘😘😘
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💜💜💜💜