Partner’s first day went well! He likes to call me on his breaks and for the first time, he was ecstatic and elated to have a job at this charity he’s at now! I’m so proud of him 😭
I also got a call today from a cattery I applied to a few weeks ago, and I have an interview with them tomorrow. The commute would be amazing (literally less than 10min walk from my place), so I could be there quicksmart, which I hope they see as a point to my application. Fingers crossed this is my break in the industry I need 🤞🏼🤞🏼
Either way, it will be another learning experience, all I can do is learn and grow!
Sounds like everything’s turning up Milhouse for you
Good luck for your interview! Proximity always helps, make sure you play that one up in the interview.
eee! this is great :)
🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻for you mate! Also 🎉 for your bloke!
Fuck yeah!!!
Sounds like great news.
Everything is working out!
good news 😊 You both deserve this so much
This was a welcome gift.
That’s so cute!!
very nice 🙂
Val Kilmer died.
We knew it was coming, but all the same this is a sad thing.Ah, I was out of the loop. Loved him in Top Secret, 11yo me thought it was the funniest thing ever. RIP man.
His deteriorating health was big news when the second Top Gun movie came out and we found out he couldn’t actually speak any more.
So sad.
You’ll always be remembered Iceman.
NOOOO 😭😭😭
He played my favourite character in Kiss Kiss, Bang Bang
Tbh I love him in everything he’s done!
Vale Val
Such an underrated film. Everyone in it is great.
he was so young too 😔
I liked his role in The Salton Sea.
Got annoyed today, someone constantly needing things from me, even when they can see I’m working out of my office about to do some other work.
My stupid first reaction and instinct is to stop what I’m doing and cater for someone else.
I need to stop myself from doing that and tell them to come back later and I’m busy because they’re too self centred to think and see that someone else is busy and only wants their thing done.
I’m the same, I go into doing the new thing mode
the thing is, i get told/implication , is that their thing is both urgent and important , so the feeling of urgency gets me every time.
anyone with an ounce of self awareness would never want you to drop what you are doing
I wonder if the habit of people expecting messages returned near instantly has bled into other aspects of life
So much info to absorb. Brain is mush.
I have also been issued the standard IT place branded polo shirt.
It’s not very flattering.
Time for that pizza that I bought with the 50 I found in my jacket lol
Hell yeaaaah get dat pizza!
Moon+Jupiter pretty
I haven’t gone to the beach yet to see stars, I hope it will be nice. Can’t be as bad as all the light pollution I saw in the inner city.
Sorry more kid stuff:
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We were having SUCH a good run with bed time lately. But the last week has been rough and the last 2 nights hes been inconsolable screaming for +2 hours. Full temper tantrum. He doesn’t wanna be held, doesn’t wanna get out of the cot, only thing that sort of settles him is wiggles videos but obviously were not encouraging that right before bed. I know “everything is just a phase” and that its likely a new development milestone coming in, but jesus I’m over this one!
He doesn’t want to miss out on the party all parents have when kids go to bed.
When I was a kid I’d resist bed time because I didn’t really feel safe that far away from my family. Once my parents went to bed that end of the house was safe, but when they were still up my bedroom felt very isolated. And the same thing happened in the morning - my sister and I would usually bring our clothes to the lounge room to get changed rather than be alone in our rooms.
If it is something like that he might be able to sleep closer to you and then move (or be moved) when you all go to bed? Or maybe if you have baby monitor you could set that back up so he feels more secure?
his room is just off the kitchen/lounge. he can deffo hear us walking around and cleaning up and stuff.
It’s hard, for sure. I experimented with lots of stuff. There was an aquarium DVD with soft dreamy classical music that was mesmerising, and I used to play it before bed. It went for about 45 minutes and came to signal “bedtime” when it was over. They loved that until it stopped working and I never found a replacement :( I found a bath before bed was a no go, as they seemed refreshed and revitalised by it and were actually harder to get to settle. I also experimented with lavender oil spray (not the aerosol one, it doesn’t smell nice) on the soft furnishings in the room or the straight oil on a cloth hanging near the bed, and lavender scented baby massage lotions administered via soothing back rub. I had night lights which cast patterns of slowly circling stars and moons or rippling water patterns on the roof. All of these things worked to varying degrees. Elder turned out to be a “rain noises and mood lighting” kinda guy. In the end Miniest was having none of it. Nothing but my presence would put her to sleep. I’d put her in her bed and go to mine, only to wake up later and find she’d snuck in during the night and fallen asleep with her foot touching my leg so she’d know I was there. Sometimes I’d carry her sleeping form back to her bed a few times, only to find each time she’d woken up and snuck back lol. It was destroying both our sleep so in the end I just gave up and allowed it. It’s so hard sometimes, finding their little bedtime thing. No advice to offer really but boy do I hear you! I hope you find your Tiniest’s bedtime something and your sanity and sleep doesn’t suffer!
story time
We’ve been doing things to wear the boys out before bed. We have a beanbag we get them to run into, let them jump on the bed singing ‘Monkeys on the bed’ then do these muscle massages and books.
They don’t need to do all of those before bed now and they’re falling asleep a lot easier
Beeeeeeach
That feels a bit like an optical illusion, cool!
thank you guys 🙂
it reminds me of a fingerprint
Excellent photo!
I have gone to the beach, visited Cranbourne Botanic Gardens and bought a car, and it’s still only 2pm!
The gardens were very nice, but it was getting a bit hot in the full sun. Now I need to sort out some photos.
I’ve had 3 smokes today. These patches make me a little sleepy but I’ll suck that up. So far, so good 👍
you can do this 💐
I don’t know how to feel about posters on reddit who don’t know how to feel.
I do feel a bit stabby, but other than stabby I don’t know how to feel.
I probably hate them just a little bit less than I feel about reaction posts. Go make your own fucking content.
So it seems I hate them too.
This is just like reading a Jane Austin novel where a character, probably Emma, calls people indescribable then spends a few pages describing them.
I 100% agree.
I couldn’t give a flying fuck that you can’t decide on what is, most of the time, a very obvious and popular position.
Your faux contrarian position is incredibly transparent. You aren’t special because you have a quarter of a braincell.
You’ve hit on one of my pet peeves. Attention seeking behaviour.
it just bothers me
maybe it’s a personal preference for me
I put a lot of effort in communicating plainly and simply and honestly and I feel like all the games people play are a waste of time and sad
Any particular subreddits that tick you off?
Health bit of a downer
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Just went over to p’s help them get ready for their little trip up to the murray.
Bit of a dark chat with mum when we were alone. She’s on a shitload of drops and drugs to prevent total blindness amongst other things. Said she’s sick of it doesn’t want to be here anymore. Just an hour before heading on a trip with her buds.
It’s a bit difficult to know how to go about that conversation.
She has the best care available but it’s pushing her to the limit.
Not after hugs, just saying (as I’m sure a few of us here already know), it can be a bit confronting even if you’re used to that conversation with others.
Sometimes all you can do is listen
thank you for reading.
Sometimes all you can do is listen
Yes, sometimes that’s all you can do. And it matters - matters a lot. She needed you to be there to hear her. It hurts to be there but keep listening. Feels.
Yeah that’s a really hard one. Not sure I have handled it well when faced with it myself. But listening is the best. It’s a natural feeling and being open to hearing it means that you can better judge how to help based on whether it’s a passing feeling, depression kicking in, or a genuine desire.
And then come here or to some other safe space and scream and kick and let out your own fears. You are doing good.
I’m so sorry. I’ve been in that place myself and sometimes all you can do is be there.
Accessibility options might help return a sense of control and help her take her mind off things but it’s really hard to be in that position and hopelessness does kick in.
One of the earliest set pumpkins is looking bigger and a few are yellowing… please hurry 🙏❄️💀
Realistically I know the cold is probably going to kill them and I might not get any ripe. The Jack Be Little are frost tender (oh no both kinds are) and the Golden Nuggets haven’t even started female flowers yet.
But I’m treating this as a practice run so I learn more about their needs and hopefully can be more prepared in Spring. Hopefully these at least develop enough to get some nice pics before they’re consigned to the compost.
This is the plumpkin from a few angles
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that looks great 🙂
Thanks. I hope next time I can get lots of fruit
Going ‘shopping’ in the vacant offices downstairs. Have acquired several potential new chairs and a flash candy bowl.
nice
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Even people who have gotten their degree and have taught still can have horrible years.
Infact at work I’m seeing it live with a new teacher who has had a number of years under her belt already.
You are there to learn and experience these things and to learn from your mistakes, just because it didn’t work out the first time doesn’t meant it’s all doom and gloom.
That’s also true :)
I don’t have anything valuable to offer
This is not true. Teaching is not easy but the skills (and patience) you’ve learnt will cross over to anything and everything you decide to do.
That’s true :)
Low, you are there to learn and get experience, of course you don’t know everything on the first day.
I suggest you listen to your mentor.
And don’t be so easily put off. You can do this.
I think I will continue until the end of the semester and see how I go :) I was pretty riled up before and I think that impacted things.
Awesome. 😊 I’m proud of you.
A friend of mine felt a bit the same, “why did I do this/what the hell have I done?” Until she got a job teaching English to adult students overseas. She just had to explore the options a bit more and find something that suited her. Maybe you’ve got to explore a bit more to find your “zone”?
I have never considered teaching, and nor have I ever wanted to. But, I will say, if you’re not feeling it anymore with your course, then don’t push yourself any more into doing it; you’ll resent it and your brain will use it against you. You already seem really burnt out by the course, and people can’t push through burn out without a break.
Drop out or defer (if you can), and take a mental health break, go for more walks (if you can), get in touch with your hobbies and interests, friends even or a club. Then, look through the list of gov funded/free TAFE courses and see if any pique your interest. If you like building relationships with and helping young people, you could look into youth services courses instead. But don’t get ahead of yourself, look after your present self.
Also,
Said by someone who tried to push through burn out in a call centre and ended up in the ER twice. Also a partner to someone who tried to do the same.
I am ready to become even more of a piece of scum in society as I don’t have anything valuable to offer.
Nope nah no way. This line of thought isn’t going to help you, I promise. You DO have something valuable to offer to society, because you are human; this particular job just doesn’t align with you in the way you thought and THAT’S OKAY!!! It is so okay, it is normal. You wouldn’t be a scum of society by getting on centrestink or anything, you just need a break to figure out what does align to your values!
Thank you so much for taking the time to write this Spud. I feel like maybe I was being a bit dramatic, and perhaps I should do more teaching to really figure it out.
But I have to have a long hard think when I’ve calmed down a bit more.
Thank you again. I really appreciate it 🥰
Also I met an animal technician the other day, and thought of you. I know you’d be awesome at it, if that’s the path you choose to go down.
(Also asked a pig to sit and it sat hehe)
That would be good, to wait until you’re calm and clear headed! No making decisions in a heightened state of emotion 💜💜
Aw!!! That’s so cool! Animal techs have such a rewarding and difficult job, lots of euths and recording animals that aren’t well, but it’s so very rewarding to advocate for their welfare!!
I LOVE pigs!!! Omg! They’re so smart! 🥹
Look, don’t blame yourself. Teaching is hard and I see teachers online talking about how the current crop of kids are more difficult to handle.
There’s definitely other options for working with young people that isn’t like that
I feel terrible for giving up so easily, but until there’s some sort of radical change in the system, I don’t think I want to do it
Trust yourself, if you really don’t want to do it don’t waste time or further money on sunk cost fallacy.
Maybe there’s still time to withdraw and get some of the tuition back?
The date was two days ago, and they’re not very lenient. But I shall see.
That last sentence is the key. You got this.
Thank you :)
Lots to unpack here for yourself. Don’t make any decisions until you’ve had a chance to breathe and mull over for a few days. It almost sounds like you got overwhelmed on the day, went into panic mode, felt like a failure and that the only solution was to quit immediately. Maybe teaching is your path and worth pursuing, or maybe it isn’t. The student behaviour issues are very real and lots of teachers struggle. But lots also feel it’s rewarding despite the challenges.Take some time, talk to people around you, see what you feel like after the adrenaline has settled. No one is perfect at something first time they do it.
