So over the weekend Mr P and I formally broke up. First there was an argument where a ramekin was thrown, then a calming down and proper conversation. We’ve been in separate bedrooms for years so not much is really changing. He initially asked me to leave. I said no, I’ve been paying rent for 13½ years to the owner of the property who isn’t you. Neither of us can afford to move anywhere or pay market rent. Also with him on the dole, can’t afford to pay for all car related expenses, which is needed with the children. I said I’m still happy to pay that stuff and I think he saw that it was a pretty good deal actually and he’s best to eat humble pie and stick with it. It’s in my interests for him to have a car to do child/school related things whilst I’m at work, and I’m happy to contribute to that. I told him (not for the first time) that he’s welcome to see other people as long as discretion is exercised regarding the children. Since then things have been really civil between us. Let’s see how it goes.
I think you’ve made the right decision to be honest.
Thankyou ❤️
That sounds like a positive approach to a shitty situation.
Thankyou, I’m hopeful that we can work our way through the “not working out” situation as peaceably as possible. Especially for Elder Minipeeler, who at first seemed pretty bummed out but is gradually realising that nothing is radically different.
I think it’s better to separate and be honest with kids that things change in people’s lives, than to keep pretending. The social lies wear on kids, they’re still developing and things subtly being wrong fucks them up I reckon. Do you guys have support networks where one of you could take off for a weekend leaving the other alone from time to time? Go stay with a parent or friend occasionally just to get/give each other some space?
for reals, I grew up in a fighting house and the goddamn divorce (and this was in the 1980’s, so social stigma wahoo) was a goddamn relief.
I was five at the time.
My mum tossed my piece of shit dad when I was 18 months old. She came home late from work to an empty house, with me alone crying for however long.
Mr P has rural people he can stay with if needed. I don’t want to leave the kids just at the moment. Also Mr P often spends the whole evening outside in his mancave smoking and watching movies so we’re not exactly in each other’s pockets as it is.
Remember to take care of yourself! It’s easy to get caught up in the kids, and Mr P, and just all the stress and difficult conversation, and you forget to care for yourself too! Treat yourself! Be it a cafe coffee, or a luxurious bath/shower, read your fave book/listen to your fav song, etc
Breaking up is incrediblely hard on the soul, especially if you still have to live together, but you are strong, kind, clever, and AMAZING!
YOU GOT THIS HOT STUFF!! 💜💜💜
Thankyou ❤️
It sucks that it was needed, but I trust that this will be the start of a happier life for you and the mini peelers
Thankyou, I feel that way too 🙂
Hugs 🫂. I wish you and the kiddos all the best moving forward. ❤️
Thankyou ❤️
Man , bringing home other people sounds super awkward. But congrats for finally setting boundaries
Thankyou ❤️ He won’t be bringing them home, he’ll be going out.
It sucks that things worked out that way, but I’m glad he was able to be civil about it afterward and it seems like you’ll be able to make things work how they are for the moment.
Thankyou ❤️
I’m so sorry.
Thankyou ❤️ I’m ok
I’m so sorry to hear.
I hope you’ll be able to work through it all in the best way possible for you and your family.
Thankyou ❤️
I hope this goes as smoothly as you need it to
Thankyou ❤️
Late but big hugs. We love ya Peeler.
Thanks mate 🙂
Thats tough stuff Peeler, but you are certainly not alone in your feelings or situation. Hoping for a sense of peace and calm for you and your Mini Peelers.
Thankyou ❤️
Only up from here, Peeler ❤️
So sorry to hear, such a difficult life event. Hopefully things can continue as amicably as possible, and when the dust settles the healing begins. It can take time, let your emotions take their course.
Best of luck with it, I hope everything stays civil. It’s good to know he has relatives he can stay with if needed.
Damn this housing market makes life awkward.
Night walk. Hambam ended up rolling in some other dog’s shit. Needed bath.
I was not very popular at first but he ended up accepting his fate.
Getting that dog into the bath wasn’t very easy.
I walked out of work at lunch yesterday. My boss was understanding about it - he is…aware of my week! - but I’m now in the grey area where I’m sort of waiting on funerals.
First one of the two is tomorrow
Hugs. Start planning recovery time - the planning helps occupy the mind.
Great image to wake up to lol
Good morning Gibson
I am more pasta then human… I may have eaten a bit too quick…
There are more than a handful of nonnas out there (all of them) that think you haven’t eaten enough.
But I can’t eat more than a handful…
🥁
I’ll be joining you on Friday….then we’ll take over the world!
Woop there it is
Rent increase notice received. I had a feeling it was coming, as the places near me with a similar floorplan were increasing. I almost can’t be mad tho, it’s still $50pw under the comparable places lol!
Sent a reluctant message to the apartment using one of my two car parks, about starting to charge for it. I won’t charge them if I find a job though, and what I’m asking per month is $150 less than other car parks around here too so 💀🤷🏼♀️
I’m thinking about what I would like for my birthday and the only thing I can come up with is a caviar tasting box.
https://www.yarravalleycaviar.com.au/product-category/packages-gift-boxes/
If I want something I buy it. I really can’t think of anything else.
Time spent with Mr CEO
something hand made with love
We’ll be spending the long weekend together anyway.
The last time the kid made me something with love, I had to eat it.
You survived. 🙂
I have had worse. 🙂
If that’s what you want, that’s what you want!
I can’t think of anything else.
I know some online businesses do charcuterie packs?
I’m really only after the caviar but thanks.
I’ve decided I need a detailed and comprehensive moving plan to make sure everything goes smoothly for my relocation. After a lot of research and considerable thought, here is what I have come up with:
Step 1: Put everything in boxes
Step 2: Move boxes to new house
Step 3: Unpack all the boxesI think I’ve got this.
Step 4: Cup of Tea
I shall exchange for coffee, as per my taste preferences. I have already followed this step 4 times today.
Second Alamutjones’ Step 4. Include Step 5: Pizza
I know pizza on the floor is tradtional moving day fare, but as I already have the dining table up there I am going to break with tradition. The current plan is tacos.
Make sure there’s air holes for those pets.
It would be handy if I could just pack them up. Pet wrangling is going to be one of the most complicated parts of the move. Miss Meow will be sedated and confined to a small pen at each end while the move happens, and my sister is going to be nanny for the day to Mr Woof - hopefully the weather will be ok and she can exhaust him with a couple of long walks.
label the boxes
I don’t think I’m up to a proper inventory for everything, but I printed out some stickers to label which room everything belongs to. I’m writing a quick note on that of the most important bits I’m likely to want to look for first.
I did have a plan to use the orange fragile tape on all the last boxes I pack, as they will be the ones I want to unpack first, but I accidentally packed the tape with the rest of the stationey supplies, so I might have to do some “open first” labels instead.
Usually we have Spotify on at work, but today we have the radio and they’re advertising a competition to win a ski trip to Utah and all I can think of is what if you won the competition and then were denied entry because border officials didn’t think it was enough of a reason to visit? I wonder if there’s the option to just take money instead, haha.
dear optichoice caller who refused to acknowledge “not interested”
I hope you enjoy the high volume youtube poop I put the phone next to, and the complaint to the DNC
Did everyone stockpile machetes before they were banned today? It slipped my mind and I forgot to get mine
This has to be one of the least effective and stupidest knee-jerk reactions I’ve yet seen. It would be more to the point to ban shopping centres imo. Or teenagers. Machetes are really really easy to make - long grass slasher machine blades make the best ones. This is traditional in the bush for clearing scrub and butchering deer/sheep and opening Queensland Blue pumpkins if you can’t find the bow saw. Just screw the blade to a handle of some sort and sharpen. And I don’t think they’re going to ban council grass mowers anytime soon. Or Bunnings. Or pumpkins.
This reminds me of when my brother made nunchucks from mum’s broom handle, a chain and some electrical tape.
All of which can be bought easily from Bunnings.
Why can’t they just use a scythe instead? My Stardew Valley player makes it work! /s
Scythes are a bit different - really thin blade at the end of a long pole. Very specialised for it’s purpose - mowing grass really low. A machete is a thickish chunk of metal and quite heavy.
You can still buy cleavers, axes etc. Ill thought out kneejerk law I agree!
It never even crossed my mind that you could just buy a machete. Clearly an opportunity lost.
I can hook you up.
Spent a bit of time in Machetes R Us on Machete street in the Machete district.
Got some good ones for the collection
I’ve never been, I’m all about Machete City.
Machete Emporium is okay, but you gotta know the staff to get a deal.
Maybe I’ve been too busy to notice but did I miss Autumn? Seems winter is here already.
I feel like we skipped into Winter very quickly. Even the beautiful big tree behind our house was confused for ages and then dropped its leaves very quickly!
It’s hard to tell it’s autumn without autumn leaves ft. these trees known for allergy balls
Plane trees 🤧😷
I am so happy to be away from the dreaded plane trees and grimy streets of carlton
here the other day after some rain I went outside and the air smelled like a fresh forest 😭
June will be winter, so in a few days it will be official… I had to check for the gardening thread as I never remember the seasons
I’ve still got some autumn colours in the garden.
With the morning frosts, I’m trying my last effort at growing poppies.
I noticed some red leaves on a maple today, maybe the colours turning has been late because we had such a warm sunny April.
Feels like it’s been summer, summer, summer, little autumn, winter, winter, winter.
I just broke my packing tape dispenser.
Fortunately it is just a plastic guard so I can still use it, I just need to be careful not to gouge the tape with the metal cutter.
train delays all day from various punks walking out on tracks
wtf , this is intolerable
I stand corrected. My Temu order is fucking AWESOME!!! I fucking love decorating my space!!! Aaaaargh!!!
More photos on the weekend.
I, too, would like to receive a cat in the mail 😂
Put me in for an order too please.
looks like the best order in the world 💖
